whats his problem please help?

Question

i have been casually dating this guy for about 7 months now. in the begining he was saying that he wanted a relationship but now he doesnt at first it was okay but now I got feelings for him and its hard for us to be friends. i told him that i didnt want to continue messing around with him and that if we was gonna be friends we should just be friends. At first we didnt talk for almost a month but now we are back at it again. He says that he cares for me but Im not sure anymore.We are still playing these games. Its not about sex because we dont have it all the time. He said that I have to many male friends is that why he is playing these games

Answer 1

Perhaps he just wants to keep you on hold. There are times when guys will tell you - what they think you want to hear just to stay in your good graces. Now that he has you feeling connected - he probably has gotten afraid because he doesn't really want you to be that attached. It could also be that he has been seeing other people - the clue to this is that he has accused you of having too many male friends. There are times when people who accuse someone else of something - are often the guilty party. If you really feel like your playing a game in this situation - why play? Just leave him alone although it may be hard, you're getting to the point where you are hurting. Ask yourself the question - Is he hurting as much as you? If the answer is no, then he doesn't have your best interest at heart - SO JUST LET GO!

Answer 2

If he brings up the fact that you have too many male friends then there are two ways you can look at it.

1. He's feeling you and knowing that the two of you have had sex he may be wondering well if me and her are having sex and are just "friends" how many of her other just "friends" is she having sex with? Yeah oyu two may not be a couple but no man wants to share a woman with another man.

2. He was feeling you but since you said that you were not interested he went and found someone that would like/love him the way that he wanted to be treated and don;t know how to tell you. He may be trying to figure out if you really like him like you say after you told him at first that you were not interested in being more than friends.

I hope this helps some. Good luck

Answer 3

I think you need to take a step back in this situation first of all, so you can look at it objectively. Your question "what's his problem" already implies you think he's the one with the problem, but as far as I can tell, you're the only one in this "relationship" that is unhappy. He's getting exactly what he wants: sex with no strings and you're letting it happen because you have feelings for him.
Does that sound like the problem is on his side or yours?
He's said he doesn't want a relationship and anything else is really irrelevant. So long as he's still getting some on a regular basis, what reason does he really have to even try to get more involved if he's already said he's not looking for a relationship anymore?
It's time for you to make a choice about what it really is you want, but either way, stop sleeping with him and you'll somehow get a resolution. Perhaps you'll get what you want and perhaps you won't, but at any rate, you'll get closure and that's what you need most of all now: certainty.

Go for it and be resolved.

Answer 4

It's about control chick, this man does'nt want a commitment but yet he does not want you to have male friends. Thats insecure. He's giving mixed messages. U did'nt explain how u started talking again after a month. Did he ring you or vice versa. If you let him mess you around he will continue to. If you ended it and then he contacted you after a month, he thought he had control over you and then you agreed to be friends and after he thought about it he then wanted some form of a relationship but under HIS control, not yours. Sorry babe, but he will always mess you around unless you show that you wont accept that behavour because you respect yourself enough to not be treated like that. There is no half measures in this. Strength in yourself or walk away.

Answer 5

Oh this sucks. And I can completely identify with it.

My boyfriend of two years broke up with me three months ago, and has been in constant contact since then. Telling me he still cares, but 'doesn't think we should be together'. Sending dirty text messages, then saying I blew it out of proportion when I hit him up on it.
Honey, its all BULLSHIT.

If a man wants to be with you, truly wants to be with you, he wouldn't give a flying rats **** whether you had 'too many male friends'. He would move HEAVEN and EARTH to be with you.

He IS NOT WORTH IT. I know its hard, because for some reason you like him, but please, shut that door and look forward to the future.

I did!

Answer 6

Of course you aren't having sex all the time because he is getting it when he wants it. He is playing these games because you are letting him. You are giving him sex sometimes and that works for him.

Alot of guys are dogs. They will tell you what you want to hear, play games with you, and go behind your back to do what they want as long as you will let them.

You deserve better..........LEAVE HIM NOW!! No more sex,
no more "messing around", no more kissing, no more friendship. Its hard, but trust me......you'll be glad you did.

Good luck

Answer 7

He has a guilty conscious... that's why he says you have too many male friends. He probably has a lot of female friends that you don't know about. Seems to me like you need to kick this guy to the curb. He only wants you when he wants you and that's when it is convenient for him. Plus, you're not his girlfriend, you can be friends with whoever you want to be friends with.

Answer 8

since he told you he's just playing games, so why keep holding on? Unless you too wanted that game...

Answer 9

If their is'nt any sex(no love). Then tell him we're only friends. then you look for your someone. Someone you can enjoy life with.

Answer 10

he's a player. he's probally got a few woman that he had sex with sometimes....give him the boot