I broke up with my boyfriend of 6 months about 3 weeks ago and started dating someone else shortly after (no there was no overlap whatsoever). My ex hurt me a lot, and it seemed as if he never listened when I told him that I needed more from him. However, we've talked several times since, and it seems like he's really trying to make it work now. I like this new guy, but I love my ex. Should I keep trying to move on or is it worth it to try again if I still have feelings for him?
Also, I'm halfway across the world from my ex right now and will be for the next 2 and a half months.
Please don't say date the new guy until I go back. I don't think it's fair to either of them to lead them both on when I really just need to make up my mind.
Any experiences or intuiton would be helpful, too...anything!
I thought I'd made a firm decision, but now......it's so hard not having my ex as a big part of my life. Why is life so complicated?
2007-03-13 11:32:29 · 8 answers · asked by k 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
go with what your heart is telling you.....do what will make you happy.....
2007-03-13 11:37:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in a similar situation. My ex started paying more attention to me and I really thought that he was really making an effort to make our relationship work again. At that time I had a co-worker that asked me out a few times and I wanted to go out with him mostly to get over my ex and move on with my life, the point is I choose to stay with the other guy and now we've been together for 3 years and are getting married!
Do what you think it's right ! As much as I wanted to go back to my ex I really didnt want to get hurt again which is why I didnt go back.
2007-03-13 12:04:42 · answer #2 · answered by Spin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don´t you stay single this 2 months, think, see how your ex treats you this time, see if he is sincere, and also see how this new guy treats you as a friend, he can always be your friend, and maybe something else if that is your decision but after 2 months, so keep things simple, stay free for yourself to clear your mind and heart, and then you heart will lead you to the right decission.
2007-03-13 11:46:46 · answer #3 · answered by copita 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From someone whos been there. If you loved your ex as much as I think you did, but also you realized he didn't feel the same way, or was unable to be there for you emotionally, I would not consider this as an option. For one, generally people do not change....even if they want to, its really hard to change the way you do things and think... so... if I were you, I wouldn't gamble here. Stay with new guy or just quit dating and be with yourself again and find out that there are other options. Don't make the mistake I did.
2007-03-13 11:40:48 · answer #4 · answered by lucielu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take this time to do you. You're not even in a position to truly give either of them 100%. You live near one but will be back near the other in a matter of months. It sounds like a recipe of disaster. Make these months your time to decide what you really want in a relationship. If either of them are really worth it, they'll be there a mere 2 months later. If they aren't, you'll know where you stood.
2007-03-13 11:39:11 · answer #5 · answered by kriskabob 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uhm... I've already experience that. The reason you dont want to be with your ex again is that the fear of getting hurt again, or worst teh PRIDE stuff. Either way, if you trully love the guy, and you think it's worth being with him again, why not? That's something I regret coz my ex who asked my hand again is now married with someone not worth it. SO give it a shot again. They say Love is sweeter the second time around. Goodluck,.
2007-03-13 11:38:08 · answer #6 · answered by mushy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because we all lead such elaborate lives
2007-03-13 11:37:14 · answer #7 · answered by sweetiepie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pray and soon you will know what you have to do.
2007-03-13 11:36:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋