What would you think of someone who doesn't like going out?

Question

You've just met someone who seems to be detached from the outer world in the sense that (s)he doesn't go out much-for shopping, coffee e.t.c. What do you make of them?

Answer 1

Not that odd, i am not bothered about going out unless its with someone i'm really bothered about. I think its good to be happy with your own company and just go out when you feel like it, not to be bothered by social obligations

Answer 2

depends where you're taking them

maybe they:

- hate dancing (guess 60% of people do - it's the pressure to do something you feel really uncomfortable with)

- hate shopping (I'm with you there; shopping sucks)

- have slightly below-par hearing, and so can seldom follow group conversations, or any conversation at all in a noisy place like a pub (my Dad - ear infection when young - he didn't figure it out till he was much older but it did put a serious damper on social life)

In other words maybe it's just what's being suggested.

On the other hand, some of us have real trouble learning to socialise. There are millions of possible deep reasons for that. Generally it's impossible for someone who has an "up" personality and outlook to understand those reasons unless they're explicitly explained, and the "up" person finds a way to put themselves in the shoes of the "down" person.

This doesn't succeed often. But don't let that stop you having a go. Your introverted friend may blossom, given a patient, low pressure approach.

Answer 3

It could be that they have got themselves in a bit of a rut, not very confident, don't have any money but don't want to say. Lots of reasons. They could just enjoy being at home - when you get older you do get like that. I was a major party animal - got to about 38 and now, like a good cosy night in with my dog and my man. Don't be judgemental, there could be a genuine reason for it.

Answer 4

have u ever asked them why they dont seem to go out? maybe something bad happened to them and has made them fearful. Only u can decide if u want to stick around but dont judge the person as strange or weird or a loser cos they dont go out as much as maybe u do or others do - whats right for 1 person isnt right for another - as the saying goes, dont judge a book by its cover!! gl x

Answer 5

hahahaha what u have reminded me girl. look there is no one that doesnt like going out he is either afraid or doesnt know what he is missing.. i was like this 3 years ago till i met some guys at school who were very cool and made me social! from that day i am usually out! what u have to do is to persuade him come with u take him somewhere great and trust me he will be the one to ask out after.. good luck!!

Answer 6

There are people who have a fear of going out in public, it's a legitimate disease. But I wouldn't pursue a relationship with this person. They need to deal with their issue before they can be committed to someone.

Answer 7

Well get to know her a bit more, she may turn out to be someone you get on really well with. Then try and get her to go out a bit more, some people need a "link" person to get them out a bit more, so they dont feel so intimidated

Answer 8

hey i would rather stay in i like to keep myself to myself it doesnt mean im lazy i do go out as i have shopping to do nursery trips to and from and i take my lil boy out but i am getting to the point of i would rather be in my house im settled though think this is why i am like this

Answer 9

i'd think they were me lol i'm just an introvert...but coming to uni has made me a lot more social, i go out at least once a week to a club or something

Answer 10

Some people don't need to interact with lots of people, i think it's fine as long as he isn't a fruitcake.