No one in my family thinks that my fiance is right for me.I love him and he loves me ........we have had a long 3 years but we overcame it.............They disapprove because he was incarserated for 10 years..but it behind him
2007-03-13 11:00:55 · 10 answers · asked by mrs. doc 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
depends on what he was incarcerated for.....but if you love him then go for it but be careful so you dont get hurt
2007-03-13 11:06:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all, consider why he was incarcerated for 10 years. This could reveal a lot about his personality. I do believe that people can learn from their mistakes as well as change for the good, though. To what extreme is your family against your fiance? Remember, your family will have your back and love you no matter what happens. I hate to bring the ugliness and the reality into this, but 50% of marriages in the US end up in a divorce. What I'm suggesting is for you to consider that you would never know what will happen with love and marriage, but your family will always love and be there for you. I hope this works out!
2007-03-13 11:10:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i think that you're familys reaction is completely normal. my parents would probably LITERALLY kill me. But at the same time, you're the one getting married and you're the one who'll pay for the consequences IF anything goes wrong, not them. Being that he is your fiance, you're probably at an age old enough to know your rights and wrongs. I think it's upto you. Yes, you are up against your family and i'd be scared as hell to do that but sometimes its not about the people you're choosing between, its about whats right. If its been 3 years and you know this is it, then go for it. He's marrying you, not your family. But dont expect it to be easy and warn him too. My brother's relationship was 2 years and the girls mother hated our family for no reason..i guess because people in the indian community talk alot of **** and people had a lot to say about us cause we didnt reallytalk to all the other indian familys we did our own thing. and they broke up 3 times and her mother did end up gettin what she wanted. they ended it forever because my brother couldnt take how everything was always about her mother. so thats just a warning. but i believe that if you do what your family wants you to do, you'll blame them if you miss him. you have to do what you want..like really want with all your heart.
2007-03-13 11:17:55 · answer #3 · answered by umm hi<333 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand why the parent;s feels that way. They only want what is best for you. Parent's sometime feel that no one is good enough for their child. He needs to prove himself to the family. You and him need to talk to your parent's together, and at that time, ask them to at least give him the chance to prove that he will not be incarcerated again and intends on becoming a asset to society . Talk it out.
2007-03-13 11:08:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um I just broke up with my fiance, by choice, and the whole year we date my family begged me to break up with him. You know exactly what to do.
2007-03-13 11:08:59 · answer #5 · answered by Elie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your both adults...make your own choices...tell your family so and be honest...but if they are right....you will always have family left and they will respect your honesty...but i listen to my family more than i do someone i have known for a few years...they are on the outside looking in...you are on the inside looking out...good luck
2007-03-13 11:06:11 · answer #6 · answered by Michael K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it may take a while, but the best thing this man can do is show your family that he is a good man, loves you and is going to take care of you, despite his past.
2007-03-13 11:05:06 · answer #7 · answered by ann s 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's your life not your families.....do what makes you happy.
Just because someone was locked up doesnt automatically make them a bad person......sometimes good people make bad choices.
2007-03-13 11:52:47 · answer #8 · answered by RedEye 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
BE WITH UR MAN HES WHAT MAKES YOU HAPPY,AND HES THE ONE THAT WILL BE THERE 4 U FOR THE REST OF YOU LIFE ,NOT THE HATERS ( FAMILY OR FRIENDS)
2007-03-13 11:04:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
That's up to YOU not a bunch of people on Yahoo Answers.
Sorry, but the truth is ... you can't make a relationship work with Yahoo Answers.
2007-03-13 11:04:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋