she's a good kid, has had 2 open hearts, has artificial heart valve, has made vow to herself to remain a virgin, (i believe her) problem is she live with family in different state (schooling reasons) and I don't know the teenagers she wants to go with.
she says they will be staying w/the parents and that boys will stay w/uncle, girls w/parents, not worried bout her decision making but am worried about security for her. spring break is a different social situation than most, (she has encountered none like it) and I'm worried that someone could "slip her a mickey" or otherwise gain control of her body without her consent. I realize that can happen anywhere but this is putting yourself into a situation where it could be more likely. she has no boyfriend, these are all "supposedly" friends. i dont want to blow it out of proportion (she'll be 18 in July) but it's my job to be concerned about her welfare. should i let her go?
2007-03-13 10:55:38 · 10 answers · asked by tamboz 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I live in a big spring break town. The guys i used to work with would always talk about the fresh meat coming down. The College-aged boys and the younger men get very excited here because they know there will be plenty of young naive 17 year old girls coming their way. Some of the guys make it a game to get as many of them as possible in bed. In situation like this, some guys will do anything to increase their stats. She is still young and will have plenty of time when she is a little older to go to events like this. If you are uncomfortable with her going, then it is your duty as a parent to protect her. If you do decide to let her go, make sure you know the whole situation. Her friends might have lied to her, and she might find out that there are no parents involved. Find out the name of the parents that are going to be there. Also some parents are not as watchful as you are. Find out what the rules of the house are going to be. It doesn't matter where the girls stay if they are not required to check in every once in a while. Go with your gut. No one on her knows how mature your daughter is, so none can tell you what you can do with your child. In the end, you have to evaluate the situation and determine what is right for your child.
2007-03-13 14:04:31 · answer #1 · answered by lilly j 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her go, your daughter may or may not have another chance given her health problems. Let her live her life to the fullest. Being over cautious about her due to her health problems may seem like a good idea but may stifle her and prevent her from enjoying life. Also she is no longer a child but a young woman and should be treated as such, esp since how close she is to 18.
2007-03-13 17:02:31 · answer #2 · answered by badmikey4 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that your concerns are spot on. I had friends that were as naive as her and found themselves in less than ideal situations.
I say talk to these adults that are going to see what the situation will actually be like down there. I know that you don't want to seem overprotective, but you need to make sure that she understands that type of situations that may arise there and how to handle it. The better equipped she is for this trip, the better equipped she will be at life.
2007-03-13 11:01:43 · answer #3 · answered by teel2624 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her go, but make sure she has plenty of condoms and knows how to use them. (Even if you and she think nothing will happen, it never hurts to be prepared. I know your choice for her is "no sex at all" but if the choice turns out to be "sex with a condom" or "sex without a condom" wouldn't you want her to use one?)
Also have a serious talk with her and mention your concerns, especially about alcohol, roofies, and other things that worry you.
Tell her that she can call you for help at any time, and you will not lecture her or condemn her - you will just help her. And stand behind this.
Your daughter sounds like a fine young woman who is capable of making wise decisions. Just be prepared for the worst, but that DOES NOT mean the worst will happen. Let her go, try not to worry.
2007-03-13 11:07:13 · answer #4 · answered by catrionn 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, 17 is too young. She'll be disappointed and maybe even angry, but that's just too young. Spring break trips like that are for college, not high school, and she'll have plenty of opportunities like this in the future, when she's older and smarter, and more aware of the world.
2007-03-13 12:13:38 · answer #5 · answered by eschampion 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if there is no imediate health threat with her heart let her go, if she's got a life threatenning health problem she needs to live life to the fullest and people who swear to abstinance are very seriouse about it. viginity i nothing to mess around with. if your worried about roofies (Rohyphenol a date rape drug) tell her to always watch her drink and never leave it unattended, dont leave it with a friend becuase they wont watch it like you do and if it does get left unattended throw it out, you never know what may have been slipped in.
but yes, deffinitly let her og, your not young forever
2007-03-13 11:05:51 · answer #6 · answered by rollin with the homies 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Let her go. How often will she get an oppurtunity like this?
She'll be fine. Seventeen is the new 25.
2007-03-13 11:01:22 · answer #7 · answered by Blue 4 · 3⤊ 4⤋
Watch a tape of....
GIRLS GONE WILD
Then decide.....
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NO in my book!
2007-03-13 11:40:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
if YOU trust her, let her go. if YOU feel she will do the right things, LET HER GO! if you believe what she says, LET HER GO!
2007-03-13 13:07:16 · answer #9 · answered by Stephen'sGirl 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No.
2007-03-13 10:59:17 · answer #10 · answered by Jelly 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋