This is a second marriage for me, with a coworker, and everyone knows about it, and has even given us a party, both of us have children, but thing are falling apart with my children....what to do? I am so depressed, and don't want to hurt anyone that I love.
2007-03-13 10:53:33 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
First I would recommend that you sit down and talk with both your children and your fiance to discuss the issues before making such a major decision. If after everything is discussed and you deem in your best interest to postpone your wedding, you'll need to call each guest immediately to let them know of the postponement. Since this may be too difficult for you to handle alone ask some of your closest family and friends to help you make the calls. Simply inform each guest that due to family or personal issues, the wedding will not take place on [date] as originally planned; a new wedding date will be announced as soon as possible. You do not have to go into specific details and I'm sure everyone will understand. Be sure to call all of your vendors right away as well. If you later decide to cancel the wedding altogether, you should return any gifts you have received along with a note thanking them for their generosity.
2007-03-13 11:24:31 · answer #1 · answered by Veronica W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should go through with it. If your children see this worked once they will do it again. How long would you honestly wait if the shoe was on the other foot you may lose someone very special for you and your children. If your children are having a hard time coping get them help put don't let them stop you from moving into the next phase of your life. Children often have a hard time with their parents remarrying.
2007-03-13 19:44:34 · answer #2 · answered by emmandal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not really knowing what is happening with your kids, or how old they are, or anything really... you have to realize that your husband-to-be comes first, and your husband will always have to come first over his or your children in your marriage. Don't let the kids pull the two of you apart. The kids will deal with it in their own time. My husbands kids didn't want him to get remarried (he was a widow), but finally came around. This may sound really mean, and I certainly don't want you to ignore or disregard your kids in any way. I'm just saying that you have to work by your schedule and not by the kids schedule. If your ex is still alive, they may still want you to get back together with him. Kids aren't always reasonable, no matter what age. My husband's kids were 26 and 28 when we married. Good luck.
2007-03-13 11:17:05 · answer #3 · answered by Proud to be 59 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are your kids?? Are you settling for someone for the sake of not being alone? Or are they just really used to you being a single person?
There are a lot of things to consider....your children will grow and move on...eventually. I am not encouraging you to toss your wedding plans out the window.....however I think you need to investigate why your kids are struggling.
If you truly believe that your kids are not trying to "run" your life and all of their concerns are legitimate.....TRUE LOVE WAITS!!!! IT ALWAYS DOES!!
No one wants to cause an inconvenience for guest ...but your first priority is to figure this out and if you have to postpone...then so be it. Remember this is your life..not just one day!!!
I wish you luck
2007-03-13 11:01:05 · answer #4 · answered by yidlmama 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oooo tough place to be! I honestly can't tell you anything except to talk to all parties invovled... and I mean the hubby and the kids... [not the guests attending]
Why do the kids object? Until you find out... you shouldn't go on. You don't want them to rebel and ruin their lives.
2007-03-13 11:25:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want a good answer, you need to be more specific. "but thing are falling apart with my children..." ain't really very helpful.. kinda nonspecific...
2007-03-13 10:59:13 · answer #6 · answered by snvffy 7 · 0⤊ 3⤋