I have noticed this on many sites like the Knot as well. Someone asks if something is acceptable because they like it but they don't know if anyone else (everyone from random strangers to their own guests who they should know to begin with) will find it acceptable or not. As long as it's not tacky or a breach of etiquette, why can't they choose what they like and to heck with what anyone else thinks about it, since they can do things their way when it's their turn?
2007-03-13 10:41:59 · 6 answers · asked by Cinnamon 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I know what your talking about! When I got married my husband & I planned and picked everything out! We never thought of who would like it or not. We had a very elegant and tastefull wedding and we were all happy. I have a g/f now who is planning a wedding (small) and all she keeps saying is this one is going to say this and that one is going to say that, and Blah blah for her and him, My head is spinning! I say "who cares - get married"
2007-03-13 13:45:28 · answer #1 · answered by Mammamia3 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you believe something will make your day more special and want to incorporate it in your wedding.. by all means go for it. The day is about you and your future spouse... why should you ask some stranger if something is acceptable.. it's not their wedding.
Like when two faiths combine and people wonder if it's acceptable to merge their beliefs into one wedding. I've seen it done. Beautiful ceremony about beautiful people. Your special day, your decision!
2007-03-13 18:23:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Because let's face it, when you attend a wedding don't you pass judgement on things? You might like the dress she's wearing or love their cake topper. You might think the flowers don't look good or that the dj could have been better. Weddings are a big deal for the guests as well as the new couple and there's alot of pressure for everything to be appealing to the guests. And although you might not have encountered it, I assure you that the bride and groom get alot of criticism for their decisions before and after the big day. It's silly but that's how society works.
2007-03-13 18:02:59 · answer #3 · answered by cyber_music 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋
because people need others help like the fact that half of them have to probably ask others what they need to eat in the morning some aren't capable of livin there own lifes, and others just want the advice of others people that don't have a biest oppinion and that have went of maybe thought the same thing, and for many getting married is a scary and or exicting thing that most don't want to do 2-3 times so they want to know if they are getting into something that others might have advice to get out of ex. thoughts ideas about what they should think about getting married why or whynot to even get married and others want a reason to say they don't want to get married because they are scared.
2007-03-13 17:58:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I do that as well. But the thing is, people opinions matter because it boosts the spirits of people. It is just like asking family. I will be doing my wedding my way, and if no one likes it, then screw them! My ideas are my ideas. I like them. So I haven't changed anything even when I have been getting a lot of crap from everyone! It is my day! People just want to know that they have good ideas and that they aren't bad. Good question though, definetly had me thinking!
2007-03-13 17:47:21 · answer #5 · answered by Peek A Boo 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Because people want to be accepted!
Or sometimes people don't know if something follows etiquette or not and they want confirmation/clarification.
2007-03-13 17:59:54 · answer #6 · answered by nova_queen_28 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋