Well, I've been with him for three years now. Recently he started exercising as well as taking dietary supplements...I'm not sure if he's looking for another woman or just wanting to feel good about himself, since he's been fat for a while. But it just doesn't stop..we eat dinner and he's doing sit ups in front of me, in front of the T.V..it's the same conversation each day about what we eat and how much he weighs today..please help, I really don't think I'm wrong in this. I know he's an extreme person and when he changes his life he changes it completely for a while, but this looks like it'll stick...please help, cause I'm starting to hate him ( but I love him like crazy and this new program of his is ruining me)
please help any help would do...please, I'm losing him...
2007-03-13 10:32:58 · 23 answers · asked by China 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
How long has been doing this? If it hasn't been too long, be patient & encouraging & when he meets his goal he'll probably slow down a little. It's a healthy thing he's doing, why don't you join him?
2007-03-13 10:37:40 · answer #1 · answered by mstrywmn 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I understand correctly: he's fat, now he's trying to lose weight and get healthy, and you're afraid that once he's fit and confident he's going to dump you--is that right?
In my opinion, this is about you, not him. Support him. Be happy that the man you love is going to be fit, trim, healthy and sexy.
If you are tired about hearing about his diet, try saying "Darling, I think it's wonderful what you're doing. Here's what happened to me today..." And after he's listened to you for a while, you can walk up behind him, pat him on the bottom and say "lookin' good honey, all that diet and exercise is paying off--for ME!"
2007-03-13 10:44:42 · answer #2 · answered by maxnull 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hang in there.
This isn't the person you fell in love with.
You know what? My boyfriend is fat and i couldn't care less. He's on a diet too but you have to remind your boyfriend that you love him no matter what. And he needs to realize what a great girlfriend he has and what he has now whether he was fat or no.
And sometimes you need to be aaway from him to help him realize whats important.
Hope i helped.
Good Luck.
2007-03-13 10:38:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
would it be so bad to 'lose' some guy who isnt in the least bit interested in what you have to say if it doesnt have to do with supplements or muscle mass?
if he wants to work out so much, thats great, and you should let him if he wants to.
however, it shouldnt cut into your relationship in any form. so if it is,. then you need to tell him. and if he is so self loving and arrogant, i wouldnt expect him to understand, or even...to care. i doubt you want aboyfriend like this, anyway. just talk to him, if you dont get through to him, considering looking for someone who cares about YOU, too.
2007-03-13 10:36:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your boyfriend is just trying to get healthy. As women, we tend to "emotionalize" men when its inappropriate. The very fact that he is sharing everything with you means that he is probably not hiding anything from you. Are you unhealthy? overweight? His new changes may be subtly making you uncomfortable with yourself. And it isn't fair to ask/pressure him to stop trying to be healthy just because it makes you uncomfortable. My suggestion? Talk to him. Tell him (only if its true) that you support him immensely, but that you don't want to constantly focus on weight either. Encourage him to find a buddy to focus on weight loss with so that you don't have to.
And if you can't support him, then get a new boyfriend.
2007-03-13 10:45:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to ask yourself one important question: what's more important, being in a romantic relationship with him but losing his friendship, or just being friends and losing the romantic side? Since it sounds as if the romance department is short-staffed anyway, I would cut my losses and at least salvage the friendship before it's too late. :)
2007-03-13 10:39:02 · answer #6 · answered by VHagerty 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you need to talk to hi and ask as many questions as possible,to see what's his response and his actions when he respond because if he gets mad or start blushing when you ask him about a girl, then there's something wrong there.And to tell you the truth,I'll be losing it 2.
2007-03-13 10:40:40 · answer #7 · answered by Janelle Monae rocks u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok you have quite a few options:
1. Talk to him about it
2. Go to counseling
3. Leave him
4. Get a lover
5. Do the same to him
2007-03-13 10:36:15 · answer #8 · answered by srjmhottie17 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you told him how you felt yet? maybe he just wants to do this so he can feel better about himself or maybe he is doing this to look good for you? but anyway it doesn't matter what matters is that you have to get to the bottom of it & ask why in the world is he doing it? be straight foward
2007-03-13 10:37:47 · answer #9 · answered by Faith 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your bf is doing something to make himself healthier and happier. You should encourage that. I do agree that it's not something you want to hear about constantly. Sit down and talk to him. Let him know that you're happy he's taking the initiative to do something that makes him happy, but you're not as interested in it as he is, so you don't want to hear about it all the time. Maybe, make a deal with him. As much time as he spends talking about it and shoving in your face, you get to talk about what you want to talk about or do something you want to do. When my bf starts talking about his stuff, he can expect to go shopping with me or hear about the book I'm reading at the time.
2007-03-13 10:45:17 · answer #10 · answered by LongLegs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋