I'm 17 years old and for the last year I've had this issue. I've been dating the same old guy for the past year and a half. He's my only friend in this world, but I'm not in love with him. I'm not even attracted to him. Despite this, we get along pretty well. I don't have many friends because I don't attend a regular school and before that i was really into drugs and lost previous friendships. Anyway, although I don't feel I'm crazy... I get these crazy thoughts about random boys. One was from work, one i met in Aruba, and one is in a class i'm taking with my boyfriend. I've since forgotten about the Aruba boy and the guy from work. Yet, with all three of them I OBSESS. I wonder what they're doing. How they're doing. I make up these weird little fantasies. It's not even anything sexual. I'm just lonely. Ok. So, WHY do i do this? How do I stop? Should I break up with my boyfriend? What is wrong with me?
2007-03-13 10:30:47 · 4 answers · asked by ? 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
There is nothing wrong with you. You need to dump the boyfriend that you do not like so much and try to be friends. Dating is time for exploration, and you need to be doing that. I think your own mind is trying desperatly to tell you that you really need to see other guys. It really is ok. Yeah the fellow will be hurt but he'll survive, and it really is better for him. Right now you are living a lie and you are afraid of being alone. You know what alone is not so bad, and then you can choose to date anyone you like. So I say go for these guys your obsessing about, even if you get turned down, that's ok too. Obsess over another and go after that one. Obsess over dozens of guys, get out, see the world, date a lot. There will be many years when you are married to tie to just one. You are stringing this guy on and on top of that you are miserable. If you continue to stay with this guy to keep from hurting his feelings and then you marry him, then your whole life will be even more miserable. Don't settle ever. Own your life honey, its the only one you have, so do with it what you want and never stay in a miserable place for too long. You are wasting precious time. This time in your life will be over quickly and you have spent countless days of it with someone you don't even like. If you truely love this person as a friend you would be kind enough to let him go. How would you feel if some fella just sayed with you because he felt sorry for you, or there was no one else that would take you? That is not a healthy relationship. You deserve happiness and love and you are settling. He deserves it as well. Good luck, breaking up is hard to do. Break up and do not go back because its the easy thing to do. That is simply what you are doing, you stay with him because its easy for you. The problem is not that you think of other guys its that you stay with this one. Move on and head out. Stay clean and sober.
2007-03-13 10:52:54 · answer #1 · answered by Sunday P 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's because you grew up without a father.
2007-03-13 10:35:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
in case you particularly like him then bypass after him purely given which you adult men wont see one yet another that doesnt recommend you cant start up attending to renowned one yet another..facebook---> cellular #----> texting/calling----> webcamming...and it is going on from there.
2016-12-18 12:50:53 · answer #3 · answered by mijarez 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is very normal
2007-03-13 10:35:15 · answer #4 · answered by mkandfa4rever 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋