So, a guy has been going out with a woman for a couple of months - very low key & casual. He knew from the very beginning that she was divorced and had kids.
How soon is too soon to introduce him to the kids? They aren't little (teenagers)
Second part, since mentioning this, he's never available - do you think he got nervous?
Just want a little insight into the male psyche. Thanks.
2007-03-13 10:17:01 · 12 answers · asked by tigglys 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It really depends on if the both of you want a long term relationship or not. If you are just having a casual relationship, then an introduction to your children is not necessary, but, if the two of you are going to pursue a long term relationship then the guy should become more involved with your family. If he is not asking about your family, and if he hasn't asked to meet your family, then I would say he is not fully prepared for a long term relationship.
2007-03-13 10:28:38 · answer #1 · answered by cireengineering 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it is a coincidence that he is not available ever since meeting the kids was mentioned. I think he was comfortable with the relationship as it was. He should be a man and verbalize exactly what he wants out of the relationship, if he is unable to than he is not worth the trouble. A woman with children should never be in a position like this. There are plenty of men that will love her and her kids equally.
2007-03-13 17:32:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say be honest, let him know you have kids. But don't introduce him until you are comfortable that you can trust him and that your relationship is going somewhere.
Second, if he's never available, then you have the answer to the first question. Don't bother even thinking about him again. Obviously, he doesn't want a woman with children. Let him go.
... I noticed you wrote "a woman", not "I". I only use "you" because it's easier for me to write my comments with that pronoun.
2007-03-13 17:24:58 · answer #3 · answered by kevness 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It can be very nerve-racking to meet someone's kids. Are you sure that he is ready? It is, partially, because it makes the relationship less casual and more formal. I'm not saying it isn't time, but maybe you should allow it to happen more organically, or wait for a holiday or occassion, where it won't be a "meet my boyfriend" situation, but rather a "Happy Birthday! Oh, and this is so-and-so I was telling you about."
2007-03-13 17:23:42 · answer #4 · answered by Jordan X 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nah! Not nervous! That's what we call a Twit!". A Loser, a Wienie! Someone not even worth remembering. Toast! Yesterdays Garbage. Yadda yadda.
2007-03-13 17:22:05 · answer #5 · answered by Goggles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends # 1 on the guy and #2 how much he likes you. Some guys like kids and some don't. If he feels comfortable comversating about them, he might be ready and vice versa.
2007-03-13 17:28:36 · answer #6 · answered by Joshua J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long have you...I mean "she" been divorced? I think a couple of months is fine..it's time to tell the kids.
He's never available? He could have another relationship. If you/she don't think he's worth telling about..then don't bother.
2007-03-13 17:22:03 · answer #7 · answered by James Dean 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he is young he is scared to death of meeting your kids responsibility etc have him meet them at a family event or meet him at a mall or somewhere fun where their is no pressure on him or your kids relax if it is meant to be it will work out but a lot of men do not want the responsibility of raising someone elses kids
2007-03-13 17:23:22 · answer #8 · answered by ken j 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
-I wouldn't introduce them until you're sure you want to be together.
-If he himself has no kids and If he did suddenly become unavailable, then yeah he got spooked. It's not abnormal. If he keeps being an idiot, though, he's not worth the trouble.
2007-03-13 17:27:03 · answer #9 · answered by splendorsolis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
second or third date what are you scared of if you already told him you 've got kids aint you a little curious why he hasnt wanted too see them! my friend is seeing this girl with three kids he's already got all of them living in a two bedroom apartment
2007-03-13 17:24:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋