boyfriend problems?

Question

i've been dating a mormon guy on and off for about 7 months and im not mormon and i dunno wat to do when he leaves for his mission cuz i love him but i dont really want to get baptized into that church.

Answer 1

if he loves you.. he will understand that you do not want to join his church. joining a church is so much more than just because someone you are with is part of it... it should be willingly and a real man will stand by you and accept this. try to explain.. and if he doesnt accept that, then lucky that you saved yourself from a guy who obiously has to have things his way. best wishes.

Answer 2

Love alone is a terrible reason to get married. It's a good place to start, but a terrible place to finish.

There are all kinds of people that I could love, but could never live with, be compatible with, or get along with.

If he's serious about living his religion, and your dead set on not being a mormon, I'd cut your ties before it goes further. Not an easy thing to do, but will prevent heartache in the long run.

However, I'd encourage you to read the book of mormon sincerely. Study it. Pray to god and ask him if it's true or not. Do so humbly and sincerely and perhaps you'll find that it is true.

What better than finding truth and the man you love.

Answer 3

You must understand that he is leaving on a mission because it was commanded of God, and he is doing the Lord's work. No doubt he will be thinking of you, but he is going to consecrate the next 2 years of his life to serving Him. You should be very proud of that, I know I would be!
During this time, you could try dating other people until he returns. Who knows? You could find somone new! But I suggest not getting baptized just to be with him. You should get baptized because you know it is the true church and want to do so for yourself. Good luck!

Answer 4

You'll probably do what most young women do when they are faced with this question. You'll either overcome your fears of being a Mormon or you will send him a 'Dear John' letter while he is on his mission which will most likely will break his heart and he will cry and be sad for a couple of weeks before he forgets about you and you him. A Mormon makes a choice to go on a mission, he/she is not forced to do so. That decision shows their dedication to their faith. Obviously your boyfriend holds high value in his faith and eventually if you cannot embrace his faith that relationship which you have built with him will crumble to pieces. One of you has to overcome, or learn to sacrifice for the relationship. If you try to swallow your objections and move forward you will, regardless of what you say or not, hold your boyfriend responsible for being 'forced to become a mormon' this will eat away at your relationship and eventually result in Divorce if it cannot be overcome.

Make your choice, stalling will benefit no one!

Answer 5

I don't blame you for not wanting to get baptized into this church. Never get baptized etc for a man - you are being a hypocrite by doing something like that. If you are meant to be with this guy, then try and keep things going while he is away. If not, then it was not meant to be and God has someone else out there for you.

Answer 6

don't do it, get out of that relationship, fast. those people believe very strange things...... they believe that its ok to have more than one wife. and unless your a nut too. you wil be in a relationship that will suk for you. always second to another one of his wives. you will regret it for a very long time. god bless you,and you will be in my prayers
john

Answer 7

You need to be honest with him and tell him that you respect him and his religion, but it is not a religion that your heart is willing to follow. Honesty is key.

Answer 8

Ditch him and come have lunch with me ;)