My brother has this horrible degenerate of a girlfriend. She has literally no redeeming qualities. She is not smart, she acts like she is 2, she tells him not to cuss when she does herself, she's fat as hell and has no eyebrows, and I think she just wants to get pregnant with him to get married and move out of her house. His best friend told him if he marries her he won't show up to the wedding, I agreed with him. How can I get them to break up?? It's clear he is just desperate, but he refuses to admit it. We have had many conversations where I tell him how I feel about her, but he doesn't care. Any tips at all would be great.
2007-03-13 10:05:44 · 13 answers · asked by dajackson 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
To be clear I'm a guy, i'm getting the feeling that you guys think I"m a gril lol. He is not in love with her, he just thinks he is. I know him well and I know he is nowhere near ready to get married, if they said that they wanted to wait til after college or until they both have a more steady life then it wouldn't bug me so much, but he wants to right now thinking he is mature enough to get married. He literally can't even make it 3 days on 100$.
2007-03-13 10:16:23 · update #1
He never listens to us. He chooses the worst girlfriends, says he truely loves them, then when he ends up breaking up with them and seeing what we saw in them he agrees, but never listens to us when we try and give him a 3rd persons perspective. He thinks this one is different, but it clearly isn't.
2007-03-13 10:18:41 · update #2
I don't see why everyone thinks that you should back off. I know your brother and he doesn't need her. You believe breaking up with her is what is "best for him." You are entitled to your opinion and may act accordingly. And for everyone saying get a friend to have sex or make out with her you must not have understood, this girl is not pretty. D Jackson's friends have better taste in girls than that.
2007-03-13 18:20:28 · answer #1 · answered by Back 4 Revenge 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've had this situation happen with a friend of mine. She was about to marry a man who everyone felt was a degenerate with nothing to offer. Everytime someone tried to talk to "Karen" about this, she blew it off and dismissed it as jealousy.
What I did was tell her how I felt ONCE then let her make the decision. After she knew what my opinion was, loud and clear, all I could do then was support her through the whole wedding, waiting until the day she discovered that everyone was telling her the truth. Sure enough, that day came not long after their wedding. While others were saying, "I told you so", I tried to be there for her the best I could without saying the same.
Sometimes, the only way people learn is by making the mistake and saying, "Oops!". ;)
2007-03-13 10:12:39 · answer #2 · answered by VHagerty 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tip: You cannot control anybody else's choices in life. Stop trying and you will be much happier.
Tip: Your brother does not need your permission, blessing or anything else for who to date, marry, or whatever. Stop trying to "punish" him by expressing your opinion of his choices.
Tip: If you really love your brother you'll be supportive of him as a person, and be ready to catch him when he takes the fall you're so sure is coming.
Lead your own life and let him lead his.
2007-03-13 10:17:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about your brothers ****** business. If he wants to break up with her he wiil. If you really cared about your brother then if he does get married to her you would go to his wedding. ( Its not your girlfriend and your brother might have diffeent taste) He must really care about her if he is not listening to you guys. (LOOKS DON'T MATTER IT IS WHATS ON THE INSIDE THAT COUNTS) What if your brother said this about you what would you do. You probably wouldn't break up with ur g/f either. This makes me think about how my sister has been to me about my b/f though. He might not be the hottest guy but he cares about me and loves me. That's what counts not the looks. Stay out of your brothers business or you might end up not having one.
2007-03-13 10:15:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Shes f u c ok i n g loopy thats what. Shes easily a kind of ladies who always needs interest, who always needs to experience needed. She likely has some interior topics with herself, which may clarify the dishonest and mendacity. Now shes telling human beings he hit her so each of the undesirable interest will bypass faraway from her and onto your brother, and also so human beings will experience undesirable for her as a outcome giving her more beneficial interest. All I even ought to assert is i think sorry for the subsequent "sufferer" she dates.
2016-12-01 22:59:20 · answer #5 · answered by meran 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By you and your friend pushing him about dumping her the more he wont' want to. He might've done it already if you two had stopped pushing him. Besides eventually he'll realize he can get better or he's in love with her. Just leave them be and let the flow go.
2007-03-13 10:14:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop trying to break them up. He has to learn from his mistakes (if it turns out to be a mistake). You continuing to try to break them up will only damage your relationship with him. Just be there for him if he gets hurt and never say "told you so"
even though you are his brother...same
2007-03-13 10:10:56 · answer #7 · answered by Mike M. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's pretty messed up cause if your bro likes her and really does love her you shouldn't have to get in the way... i say this cause my boyfriend has a sister that is similar to yourself what is it???? Are sisters trying to protect their brothers or are they jealous that another girl is taking their prized brother?
2007-03-13 10:11:20 · answer #8 · answered by brick_shithouse19 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
B A C K O F F ! It's his choice to make, let him. If you truly care for him you will be supportive of his decision.
imho
2007-03-13 10:16:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to drive her away the sensible thing i should have said was try to talk to her but f**k that make her a uncomfortable as possible OR.... hire a hit man and kill her.... OR tell her he's cheating what ever you do i hope you drive that b***h out of there !!!!!! good luck!!!
2007-03-13 10:11:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋