My Ex boyfriend and i were together for alittle over 3 years over x-mas time we were supposed to get engaged & when it was coming up to that time he became distant and we ended up breaking up but got back together a couple weeks later because he said he loved me and we were meant to be... well the day before v-day i found out he was cheating on me... (He told me) but he said he didn't do n-e thing with her & he only took her out once... well i got ahold of the girl & she told me everything... she said they didn't have sex but they did make out a few times... well needless to say he kept sending me messages & calling me telling me how sorry he is & he wants me back & he doesn't want to see ME throw away 3 years over this but i spoke with the girl & she told me he was still calling her telling her he loves her & wants her to move in with him... we confronted him well my ? now is it's been a couple of weeks since the drama & i've been dating but i just can't stop thinking about him & it
2007-03-13 10:04:21 · 12 answers · asked by candylbsb45 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it will hurt for a while the best thing to do is have girl time. go out with your girl friends and avoid guys for a while. if you just try to jump in new relationships you are only going to think about your old one
2007-03-13 10:08:49 · answer #1 · answered by cleo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well sounds like this guy was playing games with you because if he were really serious he would of not broke up with you, i think he did all that because he didn't want to marry yet and the only way to avoid all that is by breaking up, you know what you can do better then him you don't need a guy like that he dosent deserve you just focus on you and your future with someone else cause he is just going to keep lying and cheating i do believe in second chances but he blew it by cheating on you and then telling ou he was over that girl when he also lied about that so nope go on you'll see that you will get over him it does take time, if you need to think of when he cheated on you so you can get angry and make your self get strong sometimes that does work so good luck
2007-03-13 10:33:22 · answer #2 · answered by kittyg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what you are going trough, I am in the same exact situation right now, so the best thing to do, if you really want to let go, is to forget and tell yourself that may be, this was the best thing that ever happened in your relationship. Try to do new things, watch TV, go to movies, be around your friends and family. You will see that with time you won't even realized that you have forgotten about him. Only time can heal. Good luck
2007-03-13 10:11:06 · answer #3 · answered by Missy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All I can say is this...it takes time to heal from emotional scars...trust me I've been through the same thing as you lol...many times I've wished my memory could be erased but I know it's not possible. I still think of my ex at times but i know things are better this way. There is not use of thinking over someone who isn't worthy of even being with you. I know that in the future you will probbly find someone that loves you very much.
Justine
2007-03-13 10:11:47 · answer #4 · answered by *NightLover* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart, it will pass! I promise you. I just went through almost this exact same thing. Well, it was over a year ago. I promise, the feelings will go away. You will meet someone new. Someone who deserves you. I did and I never really thought that there was a guy out there that fit the description of this prince charming type guy I had always been searching for. One day, he just came to me. Things have never been more perfect.
Just don't lower your standards for any man. The right guy is out there for you. You just haven't found him yet.
2007-03-13 10:10:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry this happened to you, that really sucks. Everyone is different but I think it could take months to get over someone, especially when you've been with him for so long. As time passes and your life goes on without him things will get better. You did the right thing, try to stay strong and not go back to him.
2007-03-13 10:09:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex told me to burn all the pictures of my past girlfriends. This helped drastically, especially since they were all shitheads anyway. Get rid of every trace of him so that you can be a very good lover for your next mate. I guess baggage is the word we use. I know how you feel though. I still have not gotten over the last one, and I will never think of her as baggage. That one was all my fault, so I have a good reason. But you have every right to let go. Do it for your soul, and the next guy.
2007-03-13 10:13:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm glad to hear that you moved on with your life. But give yourself time to heal. Love that long just don't vanish over night. So take it slow. Take time for yourself and do things you like to do before you met him. Keep yourself busy. I know it is hard not to think about him because you still love him. But time heal all wounds. Spend time going out with your friends and family. Take up a new hobby to occupy your time. Before you know it he will be out of your heart and your mind. Good luck!
2007-03-13 10:12:48 · answer #8 · answered by Denese 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try not dating for a couple months. I think the advise to jump straight into some new's arms is terrible. A three year relationship if it was even half decent deserves to be grieved. Find yourself a new buck in mid-May.
2007-03-13 10:09:22 · answer #9 · answered by HomeSweetSiliconValley 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
{Your question reminds me of a Lifetime movie.}
He's a liar, and cheater, but you can't control who in the world you love. He obviously is a rollar coaster--makes out with another girl, tells you he is sorry and asks her to move in with him--which can give you a ton load to swallow.
It will take a while, but eventually the whole situation will fade away, but not completely. I kind of admire you--you're already dating other people! It just seems like you can't get him out of your mind but ike I mentioned, it will fade away. It just takes some time. And, I can tell you're really strong about it... *thumbs up*
2007-03-13 10:14:10 · answer #10 · answered by ¥§Anaşia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋