My Ex boyfriend and i were together for alittle over 3 years over x-mas time we were supposed to get engaged & when it was coming up to that time he became distant and we ended up breaking up but got back together a couple weeks later because he said he loved me and we were meant to be... well the day before v-day i found out he was cheating on me... (He told me) but he said he didn't do n-e thing with her & he only took her out once... well i got ahold of the girl & she told me everything... she said they didn't have sex but they did make out a few times... well needless to say he kept sending me messages & calling me telling me how sorry he is & he wants me back & he doesn't want to see ME throw away 3 years over this but i spoke with the girl & she told me he was still calling her telling her he loves her & wants her to move in with him... we confronted him well my ? now is it's been a couple of weeks since the drama & i've been dating but i just can't stop thinking about him & it
2007-03-13 10:03:39 · 2 answers · asked by candylbsb45 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Wow! Sorry to hear that.Time is the only "cure".Three years with somebody is an investment in time and emotions.It won't go away quickly,but it will go away.Surround yourself with close friends and family.Stay busy doing things you like to do and try some things you may have been contemplating doing.All the things you are feeling is normal,and I know it seems overwhelming right now,but day by day it will fade.Hang in there,smile often(even if it's forced) and be patient,it WILL get better.Best of luck!
2007-03-13 10:38:26 · answer #1 · answered by rockman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry for this terrible experience. You are right, its not feasible to continue with him if he still cheating on you.
However, you seem also to love him and thats why you find it hard to get him out of your system, despite the fact that it has been two weeks now since the incidents. That is where lies your current problem, i.e. you seem to love him. You want to forget him, but find it difficult.
I will suggest two things as a termporary measure. One is to try to go for holiday where you could have a real fun and concentrate on your being there. This might help to forget him.
Two, you said that you have been dating. How serious is it. If serious, then concentrate on it and make the most of it to enjoy yourself. Go out more often with one guy who seems to be promising.
Either of the two options might help you to get him out of your seystem, and possibly for good.
Meanwhile, if keep his distance and leaves you alone then it will be much easier for you to forget him. If, on the other hand, he keeps on following you and trying to contact you, then he is possibly in genuine in his love except that he is a bit flirtatious, thats all.In that case, you can make your own judgement wheather you can live with that or not.
All the best!/
2007-03-13 10:39:38 · answer #2 · answered by Ebby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋