All my friends are surprised about how many bfs i have had. (1). they are like you are so pretty and i would think guys would be asking me out left and right. Why are guys not asking me out!
2007-03-13 10:03:07 · 34 answers · asked by soccerbabe 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
maybe they are intimidated by your pretty-ness..they probably think that since your SO pretty you must have a boy friend..either that or your friends are lying to you.
2007-03-13 10:07:35 · answer #1 · answered by =] 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Without knowing you personally is hard to determine the cause. One posible answer is that men feel threaten just as women are. If a girl is too beautiful then a men may shy away because they get scared. Men get turned down a lot so, the more beautiful a woman is the morre likely you are to be turned down so why go through the hassle and agravation.
Another reason could be the way you carry yourself. Are you a welcoming person? Do you smile a lot? Chubby girl that is fun and friendly is 100 times better than hottie sitting in a corner with a bad attitude.
Yet another reason is how you play the hard to get game. It is a good thing to play a bit of hard to get. That is make it a bit of a challenge. However, most girl don't know the limits so they play impossible to get. The way my wife playe this game with me was perfect to my tolerance. She was not easy but on every date I could see some progress. First it was a simple date. Then it was a movie. Then a kiss. Then longer dates. Then I visited the house. Every step was rewarding in some way so it kept me motivated to keep pursuing her untill now I'm married. I had tried to go on dates with other girls (before my wife ofcourse) and they where damn near impossible. Too demanding or they had unrealistics expectations. I spent more time being tensed than actually enjoying the date worried that I would screw something up without even knowing what it was that I did.
Just a few things to think about.
2007-03-13 10:14:59 · answer #2 · answered by mr_gees100_peas 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1 Do you love yourself. If not that's the first hurdle you have to love yourself
2 Each time you are rejected it compounds the problem and becomes a stronger and stronger belief in the subconscious mind so subconsciously you reject. This is not a conscious decision
3 Do you want to correct this negative aberration if so read on.
This type of problem is known as psychological reversal did you have a crush on someone and you felt you were turned down or did someone reject you publicly or were you turned down a couple of times, these type of incidents are easy to put right you need to find a practitioner who practices a type of treatment called emotional freedom technique (E.F.T..) it is a meridian tapping technique developed by a man called Gary Craig and it is a combination of a technique called kinesiology and chinese acupuncture (but without needles).
If you go to a web site www.emofree.com you should be able to find a practitioner near you who can help you. the only thing you need to take with you is the memory of the first incident.
I am a practitioner of this particular technique and I know this will definitely work for you. remember respect yourself and others will respect you. Empowerement must be used wisely you have been starved of attention when this changes choose carefully.
kindest regards PERSPICUOUS.
2007-03-13 11:43:29 · answer #3 · answered by perspiccuous 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One of the following scenarios will explain the reason:
A) Your friends are being overly nice and lying to you about your quality of looks
B) You're not as attractive as you claim to be ie this is the internet we will never truly know
C) Guys are intimitated by your good looks and think that you would never go out with them
D) They have been interested in you, but you are being overly picky or just not interested in what has been offered
E) Your friends could be classified as 'Non-Discrete' or 'engaging in unhealthy sexual relationships on a regular basis' this carries an offensive term that I will not use
F) You are exagerrating the obvious truth, that you have had boyfriends but not the quantity that of which your friends have had.
G) Number of Boyfriends does not carry with it any prestige, title or status. Therefore your friends high claim of the number of relationships suggest that they have many personal failures or hangups when coming to relationships.
Your number is your number, it does not matter what it is compared to others. If you are finding that you are not recieving ample opportunity perhaps it is time that you engage in different social settings in order to bridge new friendships and colleages that will open the door for you.
Good luck in your endeavors,
2007-03-13 10:12:26 · answer #4 · answered by jprofitt303 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being pretty isn't enough. It's the qualities of the heart and personality the best guys look for. If you're kind and give the impression of being trustworthy; if you're sweet and have a forgiving nature; if you're interesting to talk to and have something to say that brings sunshine into their day and if you respect yourself and seem perfectly happy without them, believe me, they'll ask you out. You have to make an effort to be more outgoing as well. Flirt with the shy guys, that's what I always did. They really appreciate somebody noticing them and caring enough to want to get to know them.
2007-03-13 10:15:11 · answer #5 · answered by Babs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Intimidation, thats the answer to that, Guys feel that way when the try to approach pretty gals. They may think you are unapproachable, and you may be with someone also. Rejection, is something that we do not take lightly, thats just being a male, part of our makeup.
2007-03-13 10:10:07 · answer #6 · answered by tennman012000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because your friends talk about you behind your back, then flatter you when you pay attention to them.
because you spent too much time in the library, and there's only nerdy shy guys in there.
because you're being follow by a tough guy that'll harass anyone who've taken an interest in you.
because everyone know your father's a gangster and his goon is secretly escorting you.
i could get more far fetched, but you'd have to send me a picture for me to make it sound accurate.
2007-03-13 10:09:04 · answer #7 · answered by my alias 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe all the guys you know are shy or jerks. If you really want to go out with a guy you like, ask him out.
2007-03-13 10:06:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Will you be satisfied if I ask you out :P
Seriously, there might be something in you that's preventing them from getting close to you. If that's the case, you should relax and be comfortable with them.
And of course, don't just get obsessed with the situation. Someone will ask, sooner or later.
2007-03-13 10:08:22 · answer #9 · answered by Tayfun T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe its the way that you put out! Do you scare them away in your own shyness, or are you too shy, and not stand out enough to be noticed? make yourself noticeable, by being yourself, and not wwho others want you to be. Men like personality in a girl, so use that imagination girl, and get cracking! lol
God bless,
Lindsey
2007-03-13 10:07:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you don't seem aproachable.
Flirt. Let a guy know you like him. If you think he's to shy–ask him out.
2007-03-13 10:07:58 · answer #11 · answered by DEF z 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋