(Women prefered, but would like another man's point of view also) What is my best course of action on this

Question

I'm planning on popping the question to my girlfriend on our anniversary. I've been planning it for a while, and I was trying to get some clues as to what she wanted. At one point she said there's no point in spending 100s or 1000s of dollars for a rock. I tried to get her to change her mind, but she's dead set on a double digit price range for an engagement ring. I've been thinking about getting a ring with her birthstone in it with CZ around it, but I'm not sure if I should. Sometimes I think I'll just get a diamond, and she won't know the difference. I've saved the money, so I have enough to get a diamond, but should I? Thanks in advance.

Answer 1

CZ is great for phun jewels. Marriage is supposed to be forever...it's a diamond or forget it entirely. Consider a ring with both your birth stones that has space to add the stones for your children. She can wear it on her left ring finger until time to replace it with her wedding ring and she can move it to her right ring finger.
My friends now husband presented her with a paper ring he had made on his computer and printer, they then went and picked one out together. (That paper ring is one of her most cherished possessions.) It is not a good idea to pick out the engagement ring without input from the intended wearer. A future wife will never say she hates the ring you chose but it could set up the first disappointment in your marriage. This may be why she is saying no ring.

Answer 2

well i think if you've talked about it several times and she has made a point about the 2digit price range, then you should take that seriously and respect her wish. the birth stone idea is definitely on the right track though! if it's not pricey, you have to make it SPECIAL and UNIQUE in another way :-) either find something that has a sentimental value (for example you travelled together in new zealand, get a rock you only find there, this is just random, but it should give you an idea....) or it should have something to do with her (that's why i think the birthstone idea is good, that is if she knows what her birthstone is and she actually cares about it/likes it)....
i don't think i can help more than this, but i'm sure you'll find something that will mean a lot to her! :-)

Answer 3

Get the Diamond. I just got engaged and even though most people can't tell the difference (me included) the gesture is a significant part of the proposal. She's right though don't break the bank over a single piece of jewelry. I wasn't supposed to find out how much he spent but when I had it sized the jewler showed me the appraisal. I also know exactly where the money came from and that makes it even sweeter. He bought my ring with his winnings from an online fantasy football league.

Answer 4

Ok just get her the CZ with birthstone. When my husband proposed he gave me a ring that his dad gave him. (His dad is a preacher adn gave him a promise ring not to have sex until he was married. It had a cross on it) It was way too big and couldnt even wear it but it meant more to me than an diamond and my wedding ring is my mothers and its only real gold. It "diamonds" arent real but it doesnt matter. Save the rest of the money you have and that way you will have something to start off with (assuming you dont live together) to get house supplies and stuff like that.

Answer 5

maybe if you got her an antique or othwise specifically special ring she would see more value in it. i can understand not wanting to play into the western convention that expensive jewels equal big love, so maybe you can find some happy median, where you canshow the world how you feel about her with a beautiful ring, but she can feel special and not like another bride to be straight out of tiffanys. you can always invest in a beautiful band now, and then add stones through the years of your marriage if you want to. And my personal vote would be to just use her birthstone with nocz if you decide on no diamonds. cz is just a little tacky? but if you love the ring, then get it. i'm sure she'll be thrilled with anything that reminds her of the day you asked her to marry you!

Answer 6

Well, I think it depends on how much money that will leave you with afterwards. Maybe she would prefer a cheaper ring because she is thinking of saving money for the future. If you have more than enough to get the diamond, I would go for it. If you can barely cover it, I would apply those funds to something else, like a home, in the future.

Hope that helps.

Answer 7

If she doesn't want a diamond I would listen to her. I, as a woman, never understood the diamond thing myself. I would've preferred a ruby or emerald with diamond chips around it. It is unusual, special, unreplicatible and twice as nice. I do suggest spending a little more than $100 though. A quality gemstone is worth the money too!

Also, ask her mom (if in the picture) what he favorite stone is. She may be able to help you choose what she thinks her daughter might like setting-wise as well.

Good luck! I'm pulling for you!

Answer 8

I think she is quite clear: she doesn't want you to spend huge amounts of money on a "rock". Use the money instead to pay for a vacation in a romantic place and pop the question there (at the last night. Don't take chances on that!) with a lovely, cheaper ring. (P.S. I am a man. My wife's engagement ring was stolen years ago. She remembers fondly the vacations we had, much less the ring.)

Answer 9

She loves you and she'll be happy with whatever ring you pick out - I think it's a good sign that she's not asking for a $10,000 ring; however, diamonds are traditional and have yet to find a woman that doesn't want one. Like I said, I think she'll love it no matter what, but if you want to give her a diamond just tell her you thought she deserved better than a cheap ring. The ring symbolizes your love and committment to her and you wanted it to be something that would show that.

Whatever you decide - sounds like she really loves you! Good luck!

Answer 10

Hmmm...thats a tricky one. Some women mean what they say, and then some women say things like that as not to pressure the guy but in reality they want a nice diamond ring. I think I'd buy her a nice diamond ring - nothing to flashy or super fancy if thats not her taste. If you have the money then it shouldn't be a big deal and I'm sure she'll love it as long as it's from your heart.