I have decided to tell my ex girlfriend that I am in love with her. I am risking losing her as a friend in the process, but i have come to the realization that it needs to be done. I do not want to grow old wondering "what if." My problem is this. I get extremly nervous when doing things of this nature and i usually draw a total blank and it never comes out like i want it too. Would writing her a ltter be too informal? Should i do this in person?
2007-03-13 09:37:30 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
A letter does seem a bit "detached". Maybe leave a note that you need to talk to her, but when you tell her it should be in person. I don't know if you drink, but a possibility would be to drink a little. Not to the point of slurring your speech, just enough to take the edge off and calm your nerves.
2007-03-13 09:43:56 · answer #1 · answered by Luviticus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women love love love--love letters. If you freeze up when talking about things like this, the best way to do is by hand writting a letter, don't text or e-mail it, write out what you are feeling and ask if the feeling is mutual. Also tell her that you really had to say it, and whatever her reaction is ok with you because her friendship still means alot to you too, but just let her know that you love her and hopefully she will give you another chance. Good luck!
2007-03-13 16:42:08 · answer #2 · answered by Chelsearay85 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes...write her a letter. that way, she doesn't have to answer you right away....she has time to think it over, whether she loves you or not. just tell her, in the letter, that you still love her, and you miss her very much and that you cant stand the thought of being without her. tell her that you will understand if she doesn't feel the same way, but you had to try anyway. that she's worth fighting for and you don't want to loose her. also, try telling her, in the letter, how nervous you are to be telling her these things because you did not want to feel rejected by her. girls LOVE it when you just tell them the truth, no matter how lame you might think it might be. believe me, I'm a girl.
good luck....feel free to e-mail me at myspace at mandysmms (aka Mandy Barnett - the page is pink and black stars) - if you need any more advice or some tips on how to write the letter, or just a friend to talk to, i'm almost always on here.
2007-03-13 16:50:26 · answer #3 · answered by Mandy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her in person. Writing can be personal, but nothing has the touch of face to face communication. Ask her to join you for a lunch, take her someplace decent (not McDonald's) and talk to her. The informal setting of a lunch should lighten the mood and help keep you relaxed. Think of what you want to say beforehand, but don't plan exact words and phrases, just the general idea. Look her in the eye and just talk to about how you feel, but most importantly listen to her. If she feels the same, you will know. Good luck to you.
2007-03-13 16:45:58 · answer #4 · answered by fly guy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're worried about messing up, then first write a letter to her. But don't actually give it to her. You can do this to just plan ahead exactly what you need to say, because it's easier to think when you're calm. After writing the letter, read it over, put yourself in her shoes, and if everything sounds good, then go for it. Telling a girl something like this would be more sweet in person (with preparation, of course). Good luck :-)
2007-03-13 16:45:36 · answer #5 · answered by Me 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
EX gf? are you insane? be lucky you are still friends..not enough info, but if she calls you and you call her or get together , and talk, etc, then give her the gift of missing you first and then be sure to go out with other women as friends, casual dates and make sure she knows you are not available because you are busy seeing other women and doing other things like living your life.. if she starts being more interested then just simply ask her to meet you at the resturant, coffe house, movie and proceed from there..never tell her your feelings till you are ready to get engaged..if a woman ever says Ioove you , say I know if she ever keeps saying I love you and really shows it in every way and she's the one, then yes tell her you love her and give her the ring...
read all this again and then go to David DeAngelo on the web and order the newsletters...DO NOT WUSS OUT
2007-03-13 16:47:28 · answer #6 · answered by Gary G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think that it won't come out right if you tell her in person, then by all means, write her a letter. That way youc an go over it to make sure it's the way you want it before you give it to her. Good luck.
2007-03-13 16:41:21 · answer #7 · answered by stseukn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, definitely in person. Nervous is ok, just explain to her in advance that it's more than nerves, it's EXCITEMENT! The chance to spend the rest of your life with the one you love is enough to make even the coolest cat stutter and stumble. Go for it, take the chance, let her know how you feel. Good luck!
2007-03-13 16:45:23 · answer #8 · answered by Corey H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do somthing unexspected of you. Like if you think she'd exspect it to come in from a letter do it in person. And just tell her exactly what you said above. That your in love with her and dont' want to risk losing her as a friend but you don't want to ever wonder what if.
2007-03-13 16:41:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no write the letter just write in the letter that you wanted to tell her but you just knew that if you told her face to face that you would go blank and that it wouldnt come out the way you would like for it to
And in the letter also i think you should write you dont want to end your friendship but you dont want to grow old thinking what if you did ask her would she have said yes and how would your life be different
I dont see nothing wrong with this.
2007-03-13 16:42:44 · answer #10 · answered by Lauren D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋