I've been dating this really amazing girl for about 6 months. I love her to pieces and we have a really strong relationship. But in the past few weeks she has started to get really jealous when I flirt with/ or check out a guy (im bi, she is lesbian). We both check out other girls, and she never seemed bothered by it before now.
I need advice on what I can do to help her feel more comfortable. I would never cheat on her and I don't want to lose her because of false accusations.
2007-03-13 09:27:54 · 10 answers · asked by Cranberry 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Let me see if I understand this correctly she's mad that you are just looking? Well I'm a lesbian and I think Julia Stiles is super hot and I have all of her movies (too bad she's straight LOL). I also think Heath Ledger is some great eye-candy as well (too bad he's a guy LOL). My wife has no prob. with this. There is no harm in looking, not with movie stars that are untouchable nor with co-workers and neighbors, as long as it's just looking. Do something special for her to show her she is your one and only some people just need a little extra reassurance and if she is as amazing as you say I'm sure she will learn to trust you more. Good Luck
2007-03-13 09:36:33 · answer #1 · answered by teresacmt 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you do not want to lose her then the answer is simple, stop checking other guys out, as this is being insensitive towards her feelings. In the beginning it probably did not bother her much but as your relationship with her progressed then so did her feelings for you. Try a little sensitivity and respect for the person you love.
2007-03-13 16:35:27 · answer #2 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The difference is that after six months, she views the relationship as monogamous and therefore, when you flirt with other people, it is a threat to the relationship. What you have to do is decide what it is you want, both in life and in the relationship. If you want to remain with her, you will have to quit flirting with other people. There is no way to make her feel any better about it and so it is on you to respect the way she feels.
2007-03-13 16:35:36 · answer #3 · answered by fly guy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, the two of you are really good together. It's a perfect fit, but maybe she's a little afraid that it's too good and there's a catch. Reasure her that you love her and wouldn't do anything to hurt her. You are very flirtatious, I'm not saying it's a bad thing, but you might want to tone it down a little. If anything than for her.
2007-03-14 01:03:15 · answer #4 · answered by Luviticus 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well explain to her that u can have guy friends and check out guys, its not hurting anyone. Tell her that you would never cheat on her. I think she will understand and if she doesn't keep trying, it will all work out in the end.
2007-03-13 16:33:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs reassurance. No matter what your sexual orientation is, you will always check out other people. I love my boyfriend to death but i still look at a guy if he is hot. (or girl :) ) but looking is nothing. Would she rather you cheat on her? you have to assure her she is the one for you and explain you could drive a hot porche, but if a hot ferrari drives by, your gonna look at it! best of luck. Bi girls rule!
2007-03-13 16:34:57 · answer #6 · answered by AnnaG 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
before really saying you love her to pieces, look a year from now,
most true lesbian dont want their chick looking at anyone else,
most Bi sexual will flirt and do guys, you are going to have to make that descision yourself,
2007-03-13 16:31:57 · answer #7 · answered by rich2481 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like she's not worried about you not loving her, more likely she's worried that you'll decide that men are better for you than women. as to checking out other girls, it's like with guys, we don't see our friends looking at a waitress and say, dan, what would rose say? we just look too, and say DAMN. but when you look at a sex she's not attracted to, she's afraid to lose you completely to the stream of "straight" people.
2007-03-13 16:33:58 · answer #8 · answered by Pyromaniac 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
happend to me, with a guy. he was so jealous, he accused my of f**king any man that walked by. I never did or said anything to lead him to believing that. it was his insecurites and that was not my problem.
2007-03-13 16:35:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
get used to it, women are just weird that way.
2007-03-13 16:31:07 · answer #10 · answered by maxexposure2003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋