i have a problem with my BF ..
he is every thing i want in a man he is sweet kind and cute and what i really love about him that he understand me !! and we
are togather for 3 years . (this is the longest relationship that i ever had) .. but the problem is that he went to other country for 2 weeks and when he came he is not the same person i loved
he is acting so cold and he dont even care about me
i dont know what happend to him
do u think that he met a woman or something? help me
2007-03-13 09:15:09 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
going to another Country for 2 weeks means nothing...
1. maybe the way you saw things were just on your side....maybe he did not share that ...
2. maybe he has a on his mind and he is constantly thinking about it...men are capable of thinking of other issues beside women.
3. I do agree with the above...fix him dinner for 2 and tell him above all you are friends and you would love to remain that way...that your friendship means to you a lot more than a casual fling...ask him if something is bothering him...etc. No matter what he says...do not judge him.
I did that with my ex...boyfriend..and believe it or not, he broke into tears as he was desperately in love with a married woman and did not know what to do, so he confided in me...I listened to him; also with tears rolling down my eyes, but for a different reason, I thought I loved that guy...but he had no clue about how strong my feelings were for him...to date...we are good friends, but I am happily married as I moved on....you never know.
2007-03-21 01:00:57 · answer #1 · answered by Ariana 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're in a relationship for three years and don't communicate with your boyfriend as to why he went on this trip? Was it for school, work or for pleasure? Why weren't you invited to go? After all this time together, I would sincerely hope the two of you can talk about things openly. Ask him outright about this trip and explain your feelings. I would hope that he would be honest with you. You guys need to communicate better to resolve these unanswered questions. If he did go away to meet someone else; your relationship is over.
2007-03-21 15:20:51 · answer #2 · answered by riverrat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi , what u should do is make him a meal 4 2 and ask him if there is any think he would like 2 tel u tel him that u won`t b mad at him and tel him u wil b there 4 him know matter what it is and if he is still been cold with u keep askin him none stop . tel him that u really love him and that u really won`t 2 b there 4 him . x
2007-03-13 16:23:56 · answer #3 · answered by happyduck1987@yahoo.com 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is just playing it cool until you let him know how much you missed him, maybe he is mad at you for going to another country, maybe he met another woman and is in love with her, maybe he has something on his mind that you don't know about maybe..maybe..maybe. We can all try to speculate as to what is happening in your relationship but you can get the real answer by asking him.
2007-03-21 10:33:33 · answer #4 · answered by newyorktilson 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he is swapping a 3 years relationship with a two weeks crash? doubt it, I think he is thinking of quitting for sometime now but did not get the right moment.
2007-03-21 14:43:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just talk to him ask him about your relationship. Maybe he did have an affair. Who knows but people do change and it can be sudden like that. Just talk to him.
2007-03-13 16:19:58 · answer #6 · answered by krazyinchicago 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say it, but it sounds like he found another woman while he was gone or he did another woman and possible got a sexually transmitted disease.
2007-03-13 16:22:10 · answer #7 · answered by Tony S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe the time apart is what changed him. maybe he realized that maybe he likes someone else...not to worry you...but my bff boyfriend went to london and came back the same way and found out that he didnt really feel the same way anymore...
2007-03-13 16:20:21 · answer #8 · answered by ~josh's~boo~ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah, this is what you do?...cook his favorite dinner, sip wine with him , seduce him...get him in the bedroom and get on top of him...ask to tie his hands to the headboard with a scarf...then say "What the hell is going on?...what happened when you went to where ever?..don't lie to me?"....
2007-03-21 16:16:27 · answer #9 · answered by D.E.O.N. Sphinxxx 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is a problem he slep with some one and don't want to hurt you by telling you
2007-03-21 14:56:11 · answer #10 · answered by ali 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋