They been boke up for about 4 years now. Ive been dating him for 3 years and she still calls him on the low, but he says its nothing. He says he moved on to me, and he loves me, but why is she calling him 12:00 midnight. Sending him text messages, and so on... He says he talks to her sometimes, but its nothing like that, but the last time we got in an argument she called him and he told her the problems we were having, while I was in the other room, he was trying to play it off like he was talking to a man, I confronted him and he says he just wanted a scond opinion. Why? So she can fu** up what we have!!!! what do you think?
2007-03-13 08:59:09 · 19 answers · asked by Still Standing 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
For her to be calling him tha past 4 years they r still getting down ma.
2007-03-13 09:02:45 · answer #1 · answered by JLC 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I THINK IT'S A TRAP...your relationship is being affected because of an ex...just chill out...act like you don't have a problem with it...but continue to take mental notes when he messes up...if you break up with him then she has room to move in on your spot...i don't know if they are friends and enjoy each others conversation or if one may have feelings for the other...I DON'T KNOW...but arguing over his ex is not healthy for the relationship...chill out and be the confident girlfriend that you are...don't show signs of insecurity because sometimes that is a sign of weakness...
also why is he still talking to her when it clearly makes you upset and angry...i would stuff that phone down his throat if her number shows up on the caller id...that is a tad bit disrespectful
2007-03-13 09:15:05 · answer #2 · answered by fatiegurl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think he is encouraging her to call him and this is why she continues to do so. What happened to "change your phone number"? Believe when I say, no girl can call your guy if he himself did not somehow encourage it. He is playing the both of you. You need to stop listening to his excuses and let him know that if he continues to receives phone calls, texts, whatever, then the relationship between you and him is over. And you need to back up what you say. If he continues, then you will see that he holds little value to the relationship he has with you. You either take it or you don't. The decision can be only yours.
2007-03-13 09:06:25 · answer #3 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because she still means a lot for him, maybe not on the level he does for you, but he does and in a way he will allways do.
Sorry honey but if you say 3 years have passed and they still talk they'll keep doing it. Why don't you turn things around? instead of being jelous about it try to be cool about it, encourage the friendship that way you'll know for sure where you guys stand. Do you want to be afraid of loosing him all the time? that's no way of living
2007-03-13 09:07:45 · answer #4 · answered by lysa24 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
he's playing games..he might tell u that its nothing but u dont know what he is telling this other chick..and it aint no 2nd opinion its just so she can know ya have problems which in their world would make it ok for them to hook up...she doesnt need to b texting or calling him at that time..doesnt he have any respect for u...girl theres something going on with them behind ur back...no man is friends with an ex and doesnt have another thing on his mind
2007-03-13 09:07:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm in a very similar situation my husbands ex won't leave him alone either. What I would do is talk to him and tell him that talking to her makes you very angry and that if he wants to be with a real women, then he better stop talking to her.
It's a hard thing to deal with but i believe you can handle it.
GOOD LUCK.
2007-03-13 09:04:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she already messed up what you guys had. Because your complaining about her. And he is responding to her calls at midnight. Why don't you take a look at how he's responding and worry less about what she's trying to mess up? He already messed it up for you guys. He should be texting her and picking up her calls if its over. Ex's just cant be friends, no such thing to me.
2007-03-13 09:07:20 · answer #7 · answered by Mel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are here for second opinions, right?! The guy seems a good guy and he just can't get the courage to kick her *** out. Some women are really annoying especially when they have no one to bang. Be his coach and teach him how to kick her out of his life. Lead him to realize that she causes more troubles than help and she'll never get better if she keeps doing that sht to you. good luck
2007-03-13 09:08:12 · answer #8 · answered by Di Snow 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that he's not fully over her, and that is understandable, but at the same time it's not fair to you and your relationship with him, I think that you guys should take a break until he figures out what he wants.
2007-03-13 09:04:09 · answer #9 · answered by nyangammas 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend is making the decision to disrespect your relationship. I suggest you give him this ultimatum: Stop talking to her behind your back or find a new girlfriend.
2007-03-13 09:03:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋