What do you think about this?

Question

Ok the other night I searched and found an old boyfriend's e-mail. We haven't seen each other in like 4 years. We split because I went back to my ex.....stupid choice. He was tourching us and I was just scared so I went back. I really did hurt this guy but he knew why.

I have never gotten over this from day 1. He was the best thing ever to happen to me. We really loved each other alot.

I sent him a e-mail sunday..after years of working up nerve. I just let him know how sorry I was and how I feel and just kinda made myself feel better. I thought it was something I need to do for myself to hopefully get over it. My ex and I are no longer together.

Now I feel like I probably shouldn't of done that and he has never replied and I am sure he got the e-mail. My friend says no response is a good thing that thats keeping things left open and maybe he is with someone. I just feel crazy!!!!

Did I do make a idiot of myself?
What would you do if you u got an e-mail like that?

can i get some more replies?

Answer 1

I think it's awesome that you did that! You were true about your feelings. You felt good and right about telling him and if you hadn't told him you'd always wish that you had... so you HAD to tell him. No matter what the reaction is. I was in a very very similar situation. I broke up with my high school sweetheart for this complete ****** but I just never got over the first guy... only I never told him. I am a happily married woman and I still to this day wish that I had gotten up the courage to tell him how I had felt at the time. I am over it now... I guess I can't explain it... I just still wish that I had told him. So good on you! That's great! He's probably going through the emotions right now. He'll either come around or avoid you - I hope it's the first one! All the best to you - brave girl! Be proud of yourself regardless of what happens.

Answer 2

I don't think you made a fool of yourself. After all, how is he to know how you feel unless you tell him, right? Aside from that, obviously it's something that you felt that you needed to deal with, so, if anything, you've done something to help yourself feel better about the issue.

If I were him, I'd be very flattered that I was still on your mind. In fact, if I were him, that would be an excellent opportunity to attempt to pick up where things left off, if that were my interest. So, I think you did the only reasonable thing, and hopefully, you'll be rewarded with a reply. If not, hey, you tried. Can't ask for anything more than that.

Answer 3

Circumstances were bad back then. You did what you had to do. Your then-boyfriend probably understood, but at the same time still felt rejected. It's obvious that your ex was an ***hole! Moving along...it's still obvious that you have feelings for your then-boyfriend, but the sad reality may be that he got over you while you were left pining. I'm sorry that I can't help, but I'm afraid that the only one who can help you is that guy who still hasn't called. But if I had been in your shoes, I would have gotten my family and/or friends to keep the ex away.

(btw, I'm saying then-boyfriend to differentiate from your creepy ex-boyfriend.)

Answer 4

It's not sooo bad booboo. What I've found over the years is that once you finally do catch up with that old flame things just aren't the same. It's good that you got it off your chest and if he does respond just be cautious. You never know what could happen. Wishing you the best.

Answer 5

1. I'd be flattered if I were him.

2. Twice I've started relationships with women who told me they'd had the hots for me for a decade each but for various reasons hadn't done anything about it -- but more often I've brushed off such blasts-from-the-past. It has a LOT to do with whether the guy is involved with somebody else at the time.