here is the details...my sisters bfs sister keeps hitting on my fiancee (even when i am right beside him..) what should i do about this..i've tried ignoring it but now i am really starting to get annoyed. i don't want to be rude to her because i know eventually she could be my sister in law. so how should i tell her to kindly find her own man..?
2007-03-13 08:21:50 · 4 answers · asked by stephanie 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Wow, what a situation. Is anyone else aware of this? If not, maybe you are being too sensitive. If your not.......
Assuming this pretty obvious and blatent behavior I wonder why your fiancee hasn't stepped up & tried to stop her. When she hits on him has he countered her remarks & actions with a "whoa, getting a little too friendly there", or he could just firmly say that her comments & actions make him uncomfortable. I would think that the object of her desire firmly telling her to back off would be the most appropiate first step.
Also if everyone is aware of her behavior & treating it as the 800lb gorilla in the room... You might want to enlist your sisters boyfriend to take his sister aside & tell her to check her behavior because she is being too friendly as the next step.
If that doesn't work you should take the sister aside & tell her exactly what behaviors she is doing that bother you. Don't be confrontational, just let her know that they bother you and maybe she is not aware that her flirting is making you uncomfortable.
If she doesn't stop after 3 levels of intervention on this behavioral issue, then clearly she doesn't want to be included in any other get togethers. & you should explain how her behavior bothers you and that you have no desire to be included in any other social situations until she can control herself.
The most important thing is that you act calmly & rationally. This is a total "mom he/she is looking at me" situation. The sister can totally deny her behavior & put it off on your being paranoid & out to get her if no one else is seeing it if you just go after her screaming accusations. You need to get the others to see the behavior & feel that it is inappropiate. Then start the steps to stopping her behavior.
Always out think the other side!
2007-03-13 08:42:46 · answer #1 · answered by low_on_ram 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your sister, if that does not solve it either have your fiancee kindly tell her that he is not interested or tell her yourself. Maybe she is just a flirty girl who does not know when to stop?
2007-03-13 08:26:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way to do this is to use your fiance to say something. You both should be able to express to each other how you feel by now, so tell him how you feel about this situation and tell him to ignore her or say something to her in order for her to back off....ask him to put himself in your shoes.Hope this helps...if not hook her up with someone!
2007-03-13 08:27:33 · answer #3 · answered by 21Nights 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
this manner of element got here approximately to me too--my fiance's ex-female buddy, PLUS yet another woman who had her eye on him--saved contacting him, crying, begging him to interrupt up with me; some days before our wedding ceremony the 2d woman threw a screaming in good condition approximately it at a place the place he works. It grew to become into very scary, yet my fiance (now my DH) dealt with it stunning. He replaced his telephone kind, deleted the emails, refused to speak to them, etc. And as quickly as we've been married all that stuff stopped, they gave up. It grew to become right into a freaky element of conflict by way of . . . I knew my guy grew to become into warm, yet this grew to become into astonishing! besides, what's best right that's now he handles it and it sounds like your fiance is doing it stunning.
2016-10-18 07:16:15 · answer #4 · answered by juart 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋