Here's the sitch:I've been dating this guy for over a year now and we love each other very much. 1st prob, there is a 3 yr age gap between us (me being the older of the 2). 2nd prob: Almost a month ago, out of nowhere he decides to up and leave with friends and go over 300 miles away from me..to spend time with friends. No prob. Then, just this past weekend @ 3 in the AM, he calls and after greeting me, says that he thinks we should see other people. I ask why. And he says, he loves me and that he DOESN'T want to see other people but that he's not too sure we can make things work and that he thinks he's losing his freedom. Well, we patched things up and he says that he wants to try and that he loves me very much.
My questions are:
1) I think that his friend (who is jealous he has a g/f) said something to him. He never tells him that I call. What do you think?
2) Do you think that I should try to work things out with him and make the relationship work?
2007-03-13 08:02:13 · 5 answers · asked by fastash310 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I definitely think that your b/f going away with his friend had something to do with the decision of wanting to see other people. Another factor may be age. How old is he? Have the two of you ever discussed where you both want to be by a certain age? Since you've been in the relationship for over a year, I think your commitment and love for each other is something to think about. Do you really love each other or are you just together to have someone? What attracts you to each other? Has he ever given you reasons not to trust him? It seems like he may be easily influenced by his friends. Your b/f sounds confused. It seems like he may be afraid of losing you. What kind of relationship would the two of you have if you weren't dating? Would it be awkward to be around each other? Maybe you b/f's friend is jealous that you're taking time away from the two of them being together and that's why that went so far away. His friend might have wanted to make sure there was no way that you could just pop in. Ask your b/f why he's not sure things will work out and don't just settle for "I don't know." Maybe he needs a different atmosphere and wants to move, but is afraid of what may happen with your relationship and his friend's. Maybe he feels stuck in the middle because it sounds like your b/f's friend and you don't really get along and your b/f doesn't want to upset either one of you. Really think about your age gap (does it cause unnecessary conflicts?). And really think about what brought the two of you together and why you would want to stay together. These things should be concrete (ex. you're supportive of each other, you're always there to help each other out, you're both trustworthy and loyal and so on). I hope this has helped. Good luck.
2007-03-13 08:27:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be careful with how you handle the whole " friend" situation, guys are very loyal to their freinds and what they say about you, even if it's not true and they don't know whats going on, they droal over every word they say. Second, try and work it out, but make sure your not changing yourself or your standards by doing so. Always hope for the best but expect the worst.
2007-03-13 08:08:21 · answer #2 · answered by Heather L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably got some action on his trip and wants more freedom to do so at will.
2007-03-13 08:08:53 · answer #3 · answered by Flipguy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he can't man up and tell you his true feelings kick him to the side take him up on his offer and see other people.
what time should i pick you up?
2007-03-13 08:10:18 · answer #4 · answered by TBONE 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
theres another girl!!!!! hey im single in yukon
2007-03-13 08:07:20 · answer #5 · answered by rapterpilot64 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋