I have just brought a 8 month old ragdoll kitten, which I adore, but my boyfriend of 3 years really really hates cat hair and is refusing to stay at my house unless I get rid of the cat, he isn't being horrible about it he is stateing that he will not stay at mine because of the cat hair, I have told him cat wil not be allowed in bedroom ect ect but he stil refuse's, what do I do? I really like the cat but also really like my boyfriend!! (by the way I didn't consult him before I brought cat!!)
2007-03-13 08:01:47 · 27 answers · asked by Kelly B 4 in Pets ➔ Cats
Take this as a warning about this particular guy... trust me... this type will make you miserable. First the cat and then something else... and then something else. If you go with him, he'll always be demanding something from you... something painful for you to give or give up. Next month, it could your best freind he'll be demanding you give up. Then your family... then your personal opinions or convictions about things... then your own identity as a person. This man is a CONTROL FREAK. RUN RUN RUN!!!!!
Drop this guy. I am not syaing that becuase I feel you should prefer your kitten - I am saying that becuase of what his unreasonable attitude suggests your future with him will be.
I have a daughter and will advice the same to her if she had a BF like what you described.
2007-03-13 20:08:35 · answer #1 · answered by Phoebhart 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well thats his problem, its not his house so why is he trying to be like that. Cats are lovely and you can brush your cat each day and there should be hardly any hair about so he should not moan like a women really. Keep the cat as its yours. You say you didnt consult him before, well why should you? its your house not his and you two are not married. Dam some men are so hard. Well I would not get ride of the cat but the boyfriend maybe - jokes hun. Just talk to him and say well then you will have to stay at his some nights.
2007-03-13 10:49:34 · answer #2 · answered by Pinkflower 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're not married to him, so why did you need to consult about getting a cat with him. Does he let you know everything he's going to buy before he buys anything. He's a controlling person with how it sounds. I'm married and started rescuing small animals with my 21 and 17 yr old children and told him after the fact. We had even rescued a small dog that I was actively trying to find new parents for, but he used my 10 yr old daughter, saying she wanted him, but he lied, it was him the whole time. He so far hasn't said anything negative about thus far. I guess if you 2 did live together, then he would have moved out over the cat? You're still considered single and have a mind of your own for which you are entitled to get any pet you so choose to get. Would he have had the same attitude if you would have gotten a big hairy sheep dog? Me personally, I have never let any guy tell me what I can and cannot have. My husband wanted a tarantula and even though I hate then, he got one, but my 17 yr old daughter is now the caregiver for her.
You have a lot to think about, like 1) you've been with him for 3 yrs 2) how important is he to you, 3) how much do you love him 4) how much do you love the cat 5) with his attitude you'll never get a cat or any haired pet for that matter with him.
Is this the guy your willing to spend the rest of your life with, if your not sure then...... Besides is there any possibility he wants to leave you and this is his excuse for not wanting to got to your house any more. I didn't read anything about you at his house or are you now not allowed over due to "cat hair"?
Last thought to think on, does he ever try or tell you who you can and cannot talk to, be friends with or hang out with. If even one of these answers is a yes, then time to leave him yourself. I'd be worried about a behavior such as this.
2007-03-13 08:38:19 · answer #3 · answered by wolfinator25840 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi! Oh dear - this is a shame! Is it that he doesn't like cat *hair*, or really that he doesn't like the *cat*?
I've had dogs and cats throughout my life, but I must admit that when I visit my boyfriend's parents and their dog's hair gets all over me it's a bit annoying! BUT it doesn't stop me visiting! It takes 30 seconds to use a pet-hair brush or a piece of cellotape wrapped round your hand to remove the hairs from your clothes.
To be fair, whilst cats do shed, it's not a colossal amount. The only time it becomes a problem is if you have more than one cat, if you let them sleep all over the furniture or if they sleep on your clothes!
A way to get round this is to buy a fleece or two for your cat. Put this on the sofa, and anywhere else he might favour, so that the main place kitty will get hairs on is this throw. Then wash it regularly. This is what we do with our cat. If the cat wants to sleep on your lap and you don't want his hairs on you, get him to sleep on a cushion on your lap. My cat always sleeps on my lap without a cushion, and I rarely get any hairs from him! I personally let my cat shed his hair wherever he wants, as would you, but if you do need to reach a compromise with your boyfriend, this would be the way.
Another thing you will need to do is groom your cat every day with a soft brush. If you do this once or twice daily, shedding around the house will be much less of a problem!
I'm wondering why you didn't mention to your boyfriend that you were getting a cat? It might have been best to do this, especially as you've been together for 3 years! I don't live with my boyfriend either, and we've been together the same amount of time - but if I was getting a cat, he'd be the first person I'd tell! It makes me wonder if you knew your bf wouldn't like it? (Even though, I must say, he is being awkward and a bit of a tool !!)
I do find it very hard to understand quite how opposed to cat hairs he is. I don't like dog hairs, but I'd put up with them to see my boyfriend. Your boyfriend is being very unreasonable.
I personally don't think you should get rid of the cat, as I bet you will resent your boyfriend for it. Plus it's not great for the cat to be given up. In all honesty, I think he's being a bit stubborn - even if I do think you should have mentioned it to him before you bought the cat! :-) You could always just go to his place instead from now on, if it's really that much of a problem?
The only reason I think you should give the cat away is if you think that you won't be able to look after it properly (e.g. if you constantly have to leave it alone because you have to go to your boyfriend's place).
I hope this helps! Congratulations on your new kitty :-)
xx Emmie
2007-03-13 08:48:29 · answer #4 · answered by Sparklepop 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
DP's right! Who trusts a person who doesn't love a ragdoll?They are like a soft cuddly teddy bear you can always count on to be there for you, and all you have to do is put up with a little hair, can your BF say that? Weigh that against the level of love and support you would receive from each of them over the next 15 yrs, and then do the math it's easy! Keep the CAT ditch the BF!
2007-03-13 08:21:47 · answer #5 · answered by ER Vet Tech 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Ragdolls are so cute, I am jealously that you have one. I love Ragdolls too. Does the boyfriend has allergies or something? You should of told him before you brought the cat home. You got to do a pro and con list one the boyfriend, is he really worth it? Ragdoll cats are just to cute, my husband also wanted a cat like a Ragdoll.
2007-03-13 08:36:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This really sounds like a control issue. It probably doesn't really have anything to do with the cat unless your bf is severely allergic. Your boyfriend is probably trying to control you and if you get rid of the cat, then you are just letting him get his way. If you let him control you this time he will just keep trying because he knows he will eventually get his way in the end. Keep the cat. If he is really the guy for you, he will come around and just put up with the cat.
2007-03-13 08:28:48 · answer #7 · answered by marina 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a case of him valuing his feelings and happiness over yours. He should be able to get over a little petty thing like cat hair, and he would be more than willing to do so if he really valued you. Regardless, your house, your life, your decision to get a cat. If he lived with you, that would be different, but it sounds like he doesn’t.
Not only that, but are you going to marry this guy, or is he just another boyfriend? Chances are, next year at this time, he won’t be in your life anymore, but the cat will be. Pets are long-term, boyfriends aren’t.
Tell him to deal with it. You shouldn't have to make such a huge sacrifice just because he feels like throwing a fit over cat hair.
2007-03-13 08:28:16 · answer #8 · answered by Mandy 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Ditch the loser if he is this much of a prat.
You don't need to consult him about getting a cat if your not living together.
So either he's a control freak or he doesn't like cats and you do.
Either way-ditch him.Or if you really like him give him a chance but just 1 to grow up.
2007-03-13 16:37:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly what you are going through. Get rid of the boyfriend. He is being immature and is jealous of your cat. Guys will come and go in your life but your pets will be by your side and remain loyal to you until the day they die. Your motto should be like mine: Love me, love my cats. If not, hit the bricks, buddy!
2007-03-13 08:38:01 · answer #10 · answered by Me, Myself & I 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋