I'm engaged to my girlfriend, Rachel. But, my family doesn't like her. The only people who are nice to her are my mom and my older sister, Jessica. Rachel is also pregnant and they think the only reason I'm marrying her is because she is pregnant. I have an older brother and 2 older sisters. Are they jealous because I'm getting married before them. Please help.
2007-03-13 07:56:49 · 9 answers · asked by champ22 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
They are probably upset because of the pre-wedding pregnancy. They probably think you're rushing into things or she's "trapping" you. Are you sure they don't like her or is it just a vibe? The only way to know for sure is to ask them. It doesn't really matter though as she will soon be part of your family. All you can do is tell them to respect her as your wife. They don't have to like her. Congratulations, by the way.
2007-03-13 08:00:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
They could be jealous because your getting married before them or they think that the only reason why you are even getting married is because she is pregnant but the best thing for you to do is sit down and have a talk with them and figure all of it out... there could be a different reason to there actions and there not telling you.
2007-03-13 16:13:44 · answer #2 · answered by mommyandbaby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds sticky. Family is one of the most important things in my life. There may be a real reason that your family doesn't like Rachel. Has she done some things to hurt you. Your family may think that she has cheated on you. Whatever the case I doubt that they would all have the same opinion of her if there wasn't some substance to it. Now if the mother of your soon to be child makes you happy then do what you gotta. If they love you then they will respect your happiness enough to back off and let you live. That's what family is about.
2007-03-13 16:00:53 · answer #3 · answered by laedeb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortuantly you cant pick your family, your stuck with them and they will eventually come to terms with this is who you love and your are going to make your own family so its really their problem it is a defanite possibilty the older sibling espically the sis's could be jealous but again that is there problem you need to step and say i have my own family now and i would like you to be part of it, give them the ultimatum and hopefully they can get over themselves and see that you are happy good luck
2007-03-13 20:42:28 · answer #4 · answered by ppetss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you try asking them. Point out Rachel's good characteristics and explain to them why you love her and why you've chosen to marry her. Make it clear to them that you appreciate their input but would like nothing more than for them to accept your decision and make her transition into the family as comfortable as possible. Good luck!
2007-03-13 15:00:49 · answer #5 · answered by shae 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There isn't much we can do to help you. You, Rachel, and your mother should talk about this and then let your mother talk to the siblings. At the very least, they should be courteous to her.
2007-03-13 15:00:43 · answer #6 · answered by Blue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
who knows why they "don't like" your girlfriend.
YOU like her, and that's what is important.
perhaps your family will change their mind, over time.
meanwhile, perhas spend less time worrying about what other people think, and more time taking care of your own life!
2007-03-13 15:13:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
very!my husband and i had the same problem.12 years later were still going strong.His family still hates me!And he still hates my family.But we are very happy.He said i love u.And i ain`t marring your damn family anyway!lol!If you to love one another and make each other happy!Just remember they are just siblings.And your getting ready to make your own family! good luck!
2007-03-13 15:23:23 · answer #8 · answered by faithfully ronnie`s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask and reason with them
2007-03-13 15:00:21 · answer #9 · answered by luckylove713 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋