Any discreet way of catching him, or just getting more info? Also, he goes out of town a lot for work. Thanks!
2007-03-13 07:49:00 · 18 answers · asked by Heidi B 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Unless you have the finance and resources to follow him (or hire a Private Detective) when he's out of town, you'll need to concentrate on more achievable methods. Presumably there'll be some evidence. It's worth trying to get access to his email and his cell to check for numbers/messages, check credit card receipts, and bank statements. Be vigilant it's surprising what you notice once you're REALLY looking for it. Changes in sexual 'technique' are a giveaway that a man has been with someone different. However you do it, you need to get proof beyond doubt before he is confronted. Good luck.
2007-03-13 07:58:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my pet peeve is I'm a snoop, I'm an Aquarius and we have this natural affinity to KNOW everything.
I would suggest checking out the cell phone, best time to do it is when he's asleep, a plus if he's a hard sleeper.
Check the computer and if you can load spyware on there, that's even better, some sights allow you to send one of those ecards and the spyware attaches itself to his pc and she can log into the site and check his every move.
Pay attention to the nature of conversations with other people when he picks up the phone, is he going into details or being vague, also check the picture part in his phone, girls always send pics of themselves.
Follow him, take a day off and just follow his a$$, buy a wig, use a friends car and just trek around town to see were he goes.
Its not worth it though, I haven't done these things but I definitely know a few tricks, also get duplicate keys to his place so when hes gone she can go back and look around to get clues to what he's upto.
bottom line is to ask and then observe, snooping really isn't necessary, the truth always seems to manifest in some way or another.
2007-03-13 14:59:05 · answer #2 · answered by yunchi30 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A wise friend told me that you will ALWAYS find what you are looking for. In otherwords, if you are looking to find him cheating, that is the scenerio you will create.
What I learned is snooping around and checking up on people never really works out in the end. If he IS cheating, it WILL reveal itself.
Only other thing I could suggest is to hire a P.I., but you could also just confront him head on and let him know how you feel. If the relationship is a good one, he may feel hurt that you feel that way, but he should also react in a way that you know that you can trust him. I.E. Not getting defensive, understanding where you're coming from.
2007-03-13 15:11:49 · answer #3 · answered by hypwoman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dated my boyfriend for almost two years...he was & still is my best friend, highschool sweetheart, love of my life etc.
He also cheated on me countless times =[
My advice for your friend is to follow her gut instinct. I stayed with my bf because he promised me over and over again that he was faithful (turns out he really wasn't) and I pushed aside my instincts. She wouldnt be suspecting something if there was nothing making her feel that way
But then again, some girls are just jealous and suspicious people so who knows...but that's my advice =]
Good luck and don't stay with someone who doesn't treat you like a princess! I'm officially single and happier than ever now! Get rid of the loser!
2007-03-13 14:55:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm may sound crazy & stalker like but, lol, drive by his house, or even maybe if she has his passwords check his accounts, better safe then sorry. Def. not a good feeling thinkg yuor being cheated on. Most of the time a womans intuition is right on so if she suspects i'm sure he gave her reason too.
2007-03-13 14:52:16 · answer #5 · answered by NY Yanks Girrl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Theres always the follow him from afar techneque and you could also put a tracking device or buy one of those GPS cell phones the last to cost a lot of money i know but it works!
2007-03-13 14:53:51 · answer #6 · answered by Wolfboy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your screwed and he's cheating. Out of town is the #1 sign. More like a booty call. Go Go GO
2007-03-13 14:52:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My Mon used to told me that: if you need a man don't let him do whatever he wants to do.
You said your friends has been seeing that guy for years which means she should know him.When he's with you and he's phone ring you should answer that phone .you don't have to tell him when you're going to visit him , just pop-up.
If you want you can also try that make one of your girlfriend call him (a friend he doesn't really know) call him and talk to him...
2007-03-13 14:59:33 · answer #8 · answered by BOOKEY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's slowly pulling away from her...avoiding her calls, gets annoyed for no reason when she's around. There's a pretty big chance he's cheating if these things occur.
2007-03-13 14:54:35 · answer #9 · answered by swyt09 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah. Tell her to say "So-&-so told me you were with her" or "I know you were with her last night" or some actual accusation like that & see his reaction. If he says "Who told you that, or how do you know?" then chances are he is. Also, if he acts really nervous or gets defensive...
Another way is to follow him, look at his phone bill, watch his actions on the computer. It sounds stalk-y, but if you really want to know, it's the way to go.
2007-03-13 14:55:29 · answer #10 · answered by Alexis S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋