we've been together for 8 yrs engaged for 2 and we live together have a car and practically are always together but every time i bring up just goin to city hall or vegas he gets weird on my. What should I do? Trust me I bring it up then he'll say okay we should do it in the summer, he'll talk about it for the next day or so and after that I wont hear him mention it again. HELP.
2007-03-13 07:44:11 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
If it were me, at this point, I'd put my foot down. Tell him you want a date set. If he still avoids, you may have to reconsider the relationship as much as it would hurt. It sounds like he's happy with his life how it is & if being married is important to you, he may not be willing to change.
2007-03-13 07:48:31 · answer #1 · answered by layla983 5 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Well, you are not really engaged until you have a ring and a date, and it seems you are missing the wedding date. Sorry, girl, it's because you are living with him. He doesn't want to or need to get married. To see if he really does, you need to move out independently on your own, keep dating him, and see what's up. Being pretend-engaged for two years after having dated for six is just crazy! With any other serious guy, you would have already celebrated your fifth wedding anniversary and had a few kids, if you wanted! Tempus Fugit!
2007-03-13 16:46:55 · answer #2 · answered by Lydia 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm maried and my wife drop hints about getting engaged, but you should never try to get some one to marry you..
When he is ready, then that will be the time...
But If he takes to long there might be a problem so just move on with out him....
2007-03-13 14:52:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Why would he want to get married. He has everything he needs now without that final commitment. Maybe you should move out. You can't force a guy to marry you. He'll just resent you later for that.
2007-03-13 15:05:20 · answer #4 · answered by Ambre B 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Uh-oh. Sounds like you've got the non-commital type. The first thing is: You can't change him. You can't force him down the aisle. secondly: Why would he ask you to marry him if he doesn't want to go through with it? Personally I would be offended. He wants to keep you by his side but doesn't want it written in stone. If he loved you he would want to marry you as soon as possible.
2007-03-13 15:27:21 · answer #5 · answered by cyber_music 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Set a date. Pick up you calander choose a date you like and tell him that's the day your getting married. Then start planning. Realisticly the women do most of the planning anyway. lol
2007-03-13 18:24:57 · answer #6 · answered by CJ 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
honey I say you take him and your folks go pick out some invites and put um in a mail box once the ball gets rolling he'll have no choice but chase it or lose it.
2007-03-13 15:28:20 · answer #7 · answered by michelle H 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
what do you mean he "gets weird on me"?
I would surprise him. Make an appt for a Justice of the Peace, and make up an excuse for him to come with you. Get two witnesses to meet you there.
If he really wants to get married he'll do it, if not be prepared for him to run.
2007-03-13 15:02:46 · answer #8 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 3⤋
You may need to seek couples therapy if you are communicating this poorly with one another.
2007-03-14 01:02:51 · answer #9 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he doesn't really want to, don't force the issue. He doesn't want to be stuck with you. He want's to keep his options open. If you make him marry you, somebody's going to be unhappy.
2007-03-13 14:54:21 · answer #10 · answered by vrrJT3 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋