I and my girlfriend are getting married in three months. But she's in an emotional relationship with her coworker. As far I know they DIDN'T have sex. He tells her he's dating other girls but he says he's in love with her anyways. That makes my girlfriend real upset. Lately she started overeacting and getting upset over minor things I say and do, that never seemed to bother her before. I think I should dump her and cancel the wedding but why the hell is she willing to marry me???
2007-03-13 07:26:31 · 30 answers · asked by Andrew J 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Break off the engagement and cancel the wedding..
2007-03-13 07:28:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
you have good intution. Brake the engagement and cancel wedding, Even if she has no sex with the coworker she has an emotional affair with him. An emotional affairs differs from a physical affair in that it is not initiated for simple sex. Emotional affairs are often initiated when one spouse is not receiving emotional support from the other spouse and seek fulfillment from another person. Emotional affairs are often viewed as being as devastating to a relationship as an affair that involves only sex. However, some argue that emotional affairs are more devastating to relationships because even though many relationships can survive when one party is not being sexually fulfilled, most cannot survive when one of the parties are not having their emotional needs met.
So basically it is not important whether it leads to sex it is very damaging no matter what.
2007-03-13 07:34:08 · answer #2 · answered by bibus75 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He would not stand a gamble. If his spouse has taken the money already, he's out of success. the final he can wish for is that she marries the guy she's been cheating with, so the husband would not ought to pay alimony. yet why ought to they get married. they're going to stay unmarried and stay on the alimony he has to cough up.
2016-11-25 00:47:56 · answer #3 · answered by lafayette 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you nuts? You shouldn't care what she says at this point. Drop this chic, NOW! Don't spend anymore money on this wedding! Cancel and cancel now. I feel bad for you, because I feel you must have really low self esteem to let someone do what she is doing to you. Knowing what you already know, if you marry her, whatever happens will be your own fault. You deserve better than this and you should know that! Don't lose anymore self respect and get out!
2007-03-13 07:41:42 · answer #4 · answered by the anomaly23 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cos you're a sure thing, that's why.
You're not even married and she's already had an "emotional" relationship with another, why are YOU going to marry her? What in the world do you expect from this relationship long-term?
Think about it! You may get a lot more than you bargained for.
2007-03-13 07:30:48 · answer #5 · answered by Amy B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
she is keeping u as a package, why she is willing to have fun somewhere else. do u help her always, like give it to her seriously, do u remind her how much u love her, things u need to do that will make u better off, tell her to post the wedding and make sure she is free, pls don't stalk her she is already willing to leave u. u should make sure she wants u not the other guy.
2007-03-13 07:34:33 · answer #6 · answered by diji 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be careful, I don't think you should marry this person. I don't think she really loves you, so move on before its too late.
Marriage is not easy it takes lots of work and effort to maintain
and if you both are not willing to commit to this work then you should look the other way. Save yourself from the problems you'll have in this marriage.
Just my opinion.
2007-03-13 07:32:19 · answer #7 · answered by Taz 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe so she can have her cake and eat it too. I'd be a little wary of this situation, but if they haven't had sex yet, maybe her loyalty to you means more than whatever connection she has with him. Before you dump her, talk to her and tell her how you feel about this situation. Hopefully she'll come around and stop this "emotional" affair and return to normal. Good luck
2007-03-13 07:31:56 · answer #8 · answered by Steel 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This isn't going to work and I think you know that. That is why you have written, isn't it? An emotional affair is just as devastating as a physical one. It is still BETRAYAL! Don't invest your life with her. It is so easy to hook up and so damn hard to break up a relationship. I can't say why except you fulfill some of her needs just like he does. She can weigh the two out and knows she wants you... sort of like having her cake and eating it too?
2007-03-13 07:30:14 · answer #9 · answered by Lisa A 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She's still a kid ,you could cancel the wedding and still be with her what i mean about that it's you can tell her it would be better if you tell her it would be better if we both take more time to decide what's good for each other .If you do it do it fast ....
2007-03-13 07:40:12 · answer #10 · answered by BOOKEY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why the hell are you willing to marry her???You know she's involved with someone else, and if she's not willing to break it off with him to be with you...get out while you can, this is only going to get worse.
2007-03-13 07:29:54 · answer #11 · answered by woodlands127 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋