She dumped me and I just can't get over it. She was the only girl I ever met who was both gorgeous and had a great personality. I feel like this is so rare that I will never date again unless I lower my standards. This is why I can't get over her... I don't know what to do.
2007-03-13 07:23:49 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
As hard as it may sound, there are plenty of girls that are gorgeous and still possess great personalities. They are out there. I don't know if this was your first GF, but you live and learn. It's never easy going through this, but time heals though. Surround yourself with positive reinforcements, and stay positive. It too will pass, and you'll smile.
2007-03-13 07:27:38 · answer #1 · answered by JC 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
There are so many ways to look at this. You said that you were dumped, and can't get over it. At first you didn't say you couldn't get over her. You said she "was" the only girl you had met that was both gorgeous and had a great personality. I am not sure of your age, but I am sure you have lots of years left in life to meet other women that are gorgeous and have a great personality. Is this what you want? Are you looking with your eyes, or heart? Believe me, I am not judging you. I came across this site, and yours caught my eye. You don't speak about love at all. So I am wondering if you are looking for a professional type of relationship. Which is a relationship that is based on "standards" not "emotions". and if that is the case........ the price could be high. She left you for some reason. Just like having a nice car, or home....... You have to pay the price. Look at what you have to offer a person in this type of relationship.
Time takes care of so many things in life. So unless you are stalking her, you will be over this in time. Now if you are stalking her, you need to seek counseling. And turn to God more!!!!!!!!!
2007-03-15 12:00:13 · answer #2 · answered by donnalynne9650 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are projecting your lack and your neediness onto this woman. There is nothing special about her. She is neither positive nor negative, good nor bad, she just is. It is YOU who is projecting your insecurities onto her.
So the first thing you need to realize is that it is not the girl, it is you, this is all generating from you.
The second thing you need to do is stop thinking that people and things outside of you can make you happy - they can't - that is an illusion of ego. You are the only person that can make you happy. The most beautiful, charming, caring, sensitive, and alluring woman in the world is still neither good or bad, she is just something that YOU will project things onto.
The third thing you need to do is GROW UP! She dumped you - get on with your life. There is nothing special about her. She's just a woman. There are literally billions of women in the world. I'm sure that with a little skill and ingenuity you can find the woman of your dreams with no trouble at all.
FP
2007-03-13 14:34:57 · answer #3 · answered by F. Perdurabo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well lets see, you could be like a lot of pu*sies and stalk her, beg her, bother her, threaten her. Look dude she had a reason for dumping you. The only thing you can do is realize why and fix those problems so that it doesn't happen the next time. By the way, were you too clingy or too nice? This will drive a chick away quicker than anything.
2007-03-13 14:29:00 · answer #4 · answered by Flangina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We have all had this in Life
You will Carry on and meet someone Better who does not Dump You and stands by you, Then you will hardly remember your Ex Then.
Although you feel down now, This will Change with Time
2007-03-13 14:30:27 · answer #5 · answered by uksawatdii 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way to get over her is to date a lot. Just ask lots of women out and go on several dates. Even if your hearts not in it. It will get you out there and your realize that there are lots of great women out there waiting to meet a great guy. Good Luck!!
2007-03-13 14:28:27 · answer #6 · answered by beyondthelimit 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well u need to leave the past in the past and move
i know easier said than done
i was in ur shoes in 2006 and i was so depress and thought i will never find someone like her but u know what i m doing good now meeting many different women having a blast with my life and yeah from time to time i think about her but hey overall i m happy and it happen for a reason
good luck man
2007-03-13 14:32:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't possibly believe she's the only girl in the world who is beautiful AND has brains! C'mon!
Getting over someone takes time, time is the only thing that heals, but don't be so blinded that you can't see the beauty in others.
2007-03-13 14:28:44 · answer #8 · answered by Amy B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get over her mate, she dumped you for a reason what was it ?? can you make it up to her , or has she found another man ?
what ever it is theres always someone else out there believe me , get out and meet new people, Find a woman who loves you for what you are, or risk being cheated on in the future
2007-03-13 14:30:33 · answer #9 · answered by dazzadrew 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are a religious person, go to a church and maybe
they have a counseling group they could recommend.
Life isn't fair sometimes, but maybe eventually you will
find someone nice. There are a lot of fish in the sea!!!!
Improve yourself while you are waiting for God to bring
that special someone into your life!!!
2007-03-13 14:28:12 · answer #10 · answered by judy f 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋