my family is very religious. i've wanted a tattoo since i was 17 but waited to pick a design that would still mean something to me when I'm 50. I got an angel praying with the scripture Psalm 121, its a prayer that I used to have to recite as a child and still recite at age 21. I don't want to hide it from my mom...how should I tell her?
2007-03-13 07:22:26 · 27 answers · asked by Kennie 2 in Beauty & Style ➔ Skin & Body ➔ Tattoos
You are an adult so don't worry about it. Your Mom should like it, I would think.
2007-03-13 07:27:36 · answer #1 · answered by curious 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My family is not religious but my mom freaked out when she saw my tattoo, I guess because I was 17 when I got it. She saw it because I was bending over trying to bathe my little brother. She kept trying to rub it off like it was a temporary. She was upset for a while, making slick comments about it but she got over it. So tell your mom, your 21 not 17 so there's not much she could say. If she starts throwing in religion, explain to her that body are isn't something new and in fact it still is apart of some cultures.
2007-03-13 16:42:05 · answer #2 · answered by cjstudent2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suppose it depends on your religions, some religions find it very offensive and that you are disrespectful. But the good thing is that we are in newer times. I am sure that your mother will be very upset but she is your mother and she will love you no differant. Sit her down and explain, tell her that you desired a tattoo for many year, contray to her beliefs but you figured if you were going to do that you were going to meet her beliefs in the middle. All thought a tatoo it has a very deep spiritual meaning. Let her know it took a lot of thought and it was something you really want and you were hoping that you could share it with her. Either way, she may intially be upset but will soon get over it. It is a mothers right after all.
2007-03-13 15:38:49 · answer #3 · answered by pattiof 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you are 21 and an adult now so you should be able to come right out and tell her, obviously you thought long and hard about it so tell her that and then tell her the meaning behind it. she might be totally more supportive once she finds out that its a religious tattoo with significant meaning to you and im sure your family. Even if she isnt supportive at first im sure she will come around. Also maybe try telling your sister or brother before that way you have an additional support system behind you to help with your mom if shes the difficult type.
Good Luck.
Sounds like a very cool tattoo
2007-03-13 14:27:59 · answer #4 · answered by Meg 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
you could call her and ask to come over if you don't live with her anymore and talk about it in a nice, calm voice saying something like this "Mom, I want to talk about something that is on my mind. I know that you're a religious person, but I got a ta too on my back of a praying angel and a verse from Psalm 121." it is better to talk about it then keeping it bottled up that you can't handle it any more. it is better for Christians to talk about things that are on their minds or just pray that God will help you with this hard time. i know that will help 'cause I'm a Christian and i like to talk about things that are on my mind, even with friends and concealers.
2007-03-13 14:31:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She probably already knows - moms have a way of doing that. But given the content of your tattoo, I can't see how she would have any problem with your individual way of expressing your religious commitment. Before you tell her, thank her for instilling such good moral values and helping you develop such a strong belief in (add your religion here). This way, she will partly responsible (and she is) for your tat!
Or you could tell her you got a tat of (insert something terrible here) and she will so relieved with what you picked for your tattoo, she won't care!
Good luck!
2007-03-13 14:31:12 · answer #6 · answered by I See You 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her. She may take it hard at first, but she'll get over it. It's NOT like it's a skull and crossbones or something. I have 2 tattoos. I'm 54, and I've had them since my late 20's. When I told my mom, she got kinda testy about it. She didn't think it was funny when I said "At least if anything ever happens to me, you'll be able to identify the body". She eventually got over it.
2007-03-13 14:29:24 · answer #7 · answered by kj 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, depending where it is, simply wear clothing that would show it. You're an adult and you can do what you want w/ your body, so there's really nothing your mom can say about it other than she disapproves. My parents are very religious as well, so they used the "treat your body as a temple" thing on me, so I retorted telling them that I feel tattoos are simply another form of artwork and if I choose to display that artwork on my body, then so be it. I paid for it myself and it wasn't hurting my body, just making it a bit more colorful!
2007-03-13 14:53:18 · answer #8 · answered by sweet libra 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell her, or show her. but if it is going to cause a rift i wouldn't even bother. you are an adult and are perfectly capable of making your own choices. BUT if you do decide to tell her then i think you should arm yourself with some scriptural rebuttals to what she'll say about different things in the bible. namely that your body is a temple AND that you should not tear your clothes or mark your body in mourning for the dead.
the main arguments with that is to find other references to things you are directed NOT to do and ask her if she follows those things as well.
for instance there is a passage that women should not pray without their heads covered.
there are several references to sacrificing live animals and what foods to and not to eat at certain times.
just be well prepared and hope for the best.
2007-03-13 14:37:10 · answer #9 · answered by somebody's a mom!! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when did you get this tat?
fight religious with religious
tell her it is a reflection of your relationship with god and that the no tattoos thing is in the OLD testament.
you cant hide it forever what about family trips to the beach, huh?
just tell her.
2007-03-13 14:39:27 · answer #10 · answered by Lyra Silvertongue 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's your mom. She might not agree to it, heck, she might not even like it, ever. But she'll accept it and you no matter what.
I'm sure that the subject of the tattoo will win her over. My first tattoo was something representing my great-grandmother, and though my father is VERY against tattoos and piercings, even he admitted that it wasn't so bad the other day. (Though he still calls it my "tramp stamp.")
I would just start off with something like "Mom, I did something that means a great deal to me.. And I don't know if you'll approve, but I don't like keeping it from you."
2007-03-13 14:30:42 · answer #11 · answered by fitofhonesty 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋