Should I organise presents, flowers, cards, lunch etc for my wife on Mothers day, or is it the kids job?

Question

after all, she is not my mother ( kids are 5, 10, 12). Additional info my mother is dead.

Answer 1

I think your children are young and might need a bit of help to celebrate Mother's Day !!! You could help them make B'fast for her in bed !!! Or go out with them and buy some flowers and take some of their pocket money off them. You may like to organise a walk, visit to a place she is fond of and enjoy the day with a packed lunch. (The weather is going to be good.) The children could help making the packed lunch.
On the other hand she IS your children's Mother I take it? The choice is yours. I know what I would prefer, a day of recognition for my 24/7 availability. . PS. Flowers for your late Mother on her patch might be a nice touch too. You could take your children with you and explain why you are doing it?Good Luck

Answer 2

Do it between you. Let the kids do the most ,with you to guide them,as they will get the greatest sense of doing something nice for the mum they love.You can do the buying (with the kids help if necessary)let them write the cards with their own messages. They can help arrange the flowers and do some of the lunch preparation.Doesn't mum get a cup of tea in bed,or even breakfast on Mothers Day.

Answer 3

You should definitely not only give your wife a present, as she is the mother of your children. You should also make sure that the two younger ones make or give her something nice, and make sure the older one has money enough to buy or make her something nice. A good gift for your wife would be to just let that day be a day when she doesn't have to lift a finger. Take care of the kids, dinner, everything. Mother's Day is a huge day for restaurants.

Answer 4

Well she is the mother of your kids and you can have the kids help you organize everything but let me tell you she would appreciate it when you and the kids do something special and she would also feel as though she is being appreciated from you and that you realize what she has done as a mother. So if i were you i would have the kids help you do everything and make her feel special after all she should be special to you and anything that is done on mothers day from you will always be special in her eyes. Good Luck

Answer 5

Think you should chat with the family about it but at the ages they are they should all contribute to making it a special day for their mum. You may require to go shopping with them but if they have their own money let them choose. It's lovely as a mum to get a present but think most mums will agree that it's little things like home made cards and gestures on the day that make it really special and so appreciated. Breakfast in bed, helping with chores etc. One thing I would warn is unless you know your wife perhaps just has a slice of toast because of the time factor then a lovely cooked breakfast would be nice but if she perhaps prefers just cereal or just toast keep it to her usual with perhaps a nice flower on the tray. Nothing worse that being presented with a full fry up if it's not what you want first thing in the morning............especially with all eyes on you eating it. Worse if you are like me and at Weight Watchers!!!

Answer 6

I'd leave the decision up to your eldest child, the youngest has probably made a card in school and will be looking forward to giving it to Mum likewise the middle child,the eldest I guess is past the age off making cards in class, if they get spending money ask what they like Mum to recieve for Mothers day and if their spending money does'nt cover the cost help them out but don't let the secret out keep Mum if you'll excuse the pun.

I'm sorry to hear your Mother is no longer with us, (and hope you don' think this harsh cos it's not intended that way,) but I don't really think that is relevant to question

Answer 7

well i think you should take your kids out shopping and ask them to pick a lil something for mum. my lil boy is 3 n half an every year so far either my dad or my sister has got me some thing from him and it is lovely why not get the kids to make her special cards more thoughtful and yeah take her out for a meal after all mothers are great, my mother passed 12 years ago so i know how you feel good luck x

Answer 8

It is yours and the kids job to do this....after all...you did get her pregnant~ (you enjoyed that I am sure)...lol...I was not meaning to be rude by saying this, but ...yes You are her hubby and I think you should organize something special for the lady who gave birth to your lovely children...but as a group thing you and the kids should all get together as a team and make/buy her cards ...flowers...breakfast in bed....make or buy something special (treat) for her that is meaningful~
Let me give you a few suggestions if I may~.....
My hubby is a great cook and my daughter like cooking , and he knows what I love to eat~....have all of u cook something special~

when you and your wife are alone at the end of thenight (when kids are in bed already) draw her a bath and have candles and give her a nice back rub with lots of hugs and kisses ...you know the rest~

beautiful flowers ...of course...in her favorite colors~

let her sleep in while u and the kiddos make a yummy breakfast~ serve her a cup of tea or coffee and along with that bring it to her with a nice hug and kiss from you and the kids along with the cards~

ps.... I am a mother and I love this kind of treatment from my kids and hubby~ she would be smiling from ear to ear and floating on a cloud all day long~

Answer 9

My hubby never does anything for me on Mothers day.

It's Ok now because the kids are older ( i don't want much a homemade card and a cup of tea is lovely)

I used to be reduced to tears when they were little though not because I wanted anything, but because I loved my dad helping me do something special for my mum when I was little and I felt my kids missed out on that feeling

Answer 10

Same position mum dead kids 11 and 13.

I usually chat with the kids to remind them, find out what they are doing.
Sometimes they like to make a card or paper flowers.

I make sure I bring her breakfast in bed and compliment what the kids are doing by bringing chocolates or flowers (which are from them)