Does this make me a bad mom...I can hear him in his room, but he is very whiney and I needed a mini break!
2007-03-13 07:13:48 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Absolutely!
The sign of a great parent is one that realizes when they are at the edge of their patience.
Most parents aren't great, they will let it go on and on and on until they scream at the kid.
A few minute break is fine, why doesn't he still take naps? My dd will take naps until she is in school full time, I need the break!
2007-03-13 07:19:48 · answer #1 · answered by Gem 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
It is definitley ok! In fact it makes you a better mom by showing your child how to entertain themselves and resolve problems. Just make sure his room is babyproof. All outlets have covers and nothing heavy can be pulled down and cords are safely put away. He may be upset at first, but I would suggest not using his room as a punishment. Alot of parents do this ("Go to your room!") instead start by going into his room with him then a little at a time start leaving him for longer periods. Not, to long. like every ten minutes check on him. This also depends if his room is close to where you are in the house. If you have a baby monitor still you can also leave this on for extra precaution although this does not substitute a mothers eye.He will become more independent, learn how to problem solve and entertain himself. Makes it easier when he does make the transition to daycare or school. Good luck!
2007-03-13 14:51:17 · answer #2 · answered by Theresa D 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes its fine Im sure his room is baby proofed most kids are for their age. Purchase a gate if you don't have one already put him in there set some toys around him and let him have at it theres nothing wrong with it.Take a cup of coffee or glass of tea and step out on your porch leaving the door cracked so you can still hear him or take a monitor. All moms need a break otherwise we would lose our minds trying to give every waking moment to our kids. Your a great mom for recognizing your boundaries and trying to find a healthy way to give you and your son a break.
2007-03-13 14:56:30 · answer #3 · answered by Beautiful Dreamer 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If putting your kid in another room so you can keep your sanity makes you a bad mom, then I'm the worst!!! LOL No, you're not a bad mom. Every parent needs a break and as long as the room he's in is safe, then it's no big deal. Would you rather send him away from you to let you get some air or would you rather beat him b/c he's constantly up your butt? I'd go for the 1st option myself! Everybody needs breather from time to time so if sending your son to his room for a few minutes helps you cope w/ his behavior, then do it. Lord knows my 2 yr old can drive me up the wall! I usually just walk away from him before I lose control. His big sister is a big help too! At least I can send him up to HER room to bug her for 1/2 an hour! Whew!
2007-03-13 14:22:58 · answer #4 · answered by sweet libra 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Good for you mommy. You feel bad, but sometimes we all need breaks. As long as he's in a safe environment, he's ok. You're doing a great thing taking ten mins to cool down and regroup.
Time to yourself is critical. Maybe ask your partner or mother or friend to watch the child for an hour tonight just for you to take a nice bath or read some of your book or just go for a coffee or to a movie. Just take a bit of alone time. When you spend a bit of time away it makes time together that much better. You'll miss him before you get home.
Breaks are good!
2007-03-13 14:20:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
if you prepare for your "mini break" first, by sitting down and spending 15 quality minutes playing with your son, he will be much more willing to leave you alone! also, you could try making it feel like a break for him, too. instead of putting him in his room, put a movie on in a safe room, and you go lock your bedroom door. I have 2 young ones, and I am telling you, by just smiling or laughing with your kid for a few minutes when you've had enough, it will change everything! then they know you love them, and they are OK with letting you go for a breather! Good luck!!
2007-03-13 14:20:35 · answer #6 · answered by BellaJ_DDils 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO YOU'RE NOT A BAD MOM!! I DO IT ALL THE TIME WITH MY 1 YEAR OLD AND MY 5 YEAR OLD. SOMETIMES YOU JUST GOTTA REGROUP. USUALLY I PUT THEM IN A ROOM TOGETHER, SO THEY CAN PLAY, BUT IT DOESN'T ALWAYS WORK OUT-SOMETHIMES I DON'T EVEN GET BACK DOWN THE HALLWAY BEFORE THEY'RE FIGHTING AND RUNNING BACK OUT TO ME! WHEN MY SON IS AT SCHOOL, MY DAUGHTER GETS BORED AND LOOKS FOR NEW THINGS TO GET INTO. I PLAY WITH HER, BUT AFTER A WHILE SHE WANTS HER BROTHER MORE (HE UNDERSTANDS THEIR GAMES)SO SHE GETS IRRITATED. WHEN SHE GETS TO "THAT POINT" IT'S EITHER NAP TIME OR ROOM TIME. EITHER WAY IT'S MOMMY TIME. SHE TAKES HER NAP AT THE SAME TIME EVERY DAY, SO SHE'S USUALLY READY FOR IT. SEEING HOW IT'S HIS ROOM, IT'S PROBABLY KID SAFE ANYWAYS, SO I WOULDN'T WORRY ABOUT HIM GETTING HURT. YOU CAN HEAR HIM, SO IT'S NOT LIKE YOU'RE LEAVING HIM ALONE IN THE HOUSE. EVERYONE DESERVES A BREAK, ESPECIALLY MOMMYS. AND 10 MINUTES IS NOT NEAR AS LONG AS SOME PEOPLE DO. I USUALLY TAKE ABOUT 15, BUT MY NEIGHBORS WILL SEND THEIR KIDS IN THEIR ROOM FOR HOURS AT A TIME. THEY ARE BRATTY, BUT THEY PROBABLY WOULDN'T BE SO MUCH IF THEY WOULD SPEND A LITTLE TIME WITH THEM. IT SOUNDS LIKE YOU'RE DOING GREAT. NOT ONLY DO YOU DESERVE A MINI-BREAK, YOU NEED ONE. IT MAKES YOU MORE RELAXED AND CALMER, SO IT MAKES IT BETTER FOR YOUR SON, TOO. AND IT TEACHES HIM TO BE MORE INDEPENDANT, INSTEAD OF ALWAYS NEEDING YOU TO AMUSE HIM. HE'LL USE HIS IMAGINATION, AND THAT HELPS IN HIS DEVELOPMENT. DON'T LISTEN TO THE PEOPLE THAT SAID YOU DON'T GET BREAKS ANYMORE OR THAT SOMETHING WILL HAPPEN TO YOUR BABY-EITHER THEY DON'T EVEN HAVE KIDS OR IF THEY DO THEY'RE STRESSED--PROBABLY BC THEY DON'T TAKE BREAKS!! YOU DO WHAT YOU FEEL IS RIGHT. NOW GO PUT YOUR FEET UP FOR A MIN!
2007-03-17 02:01:29 · answer #7 · answered by dmarie2101 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was always encouraged to play and whatever, and my room was always a safe area i could go and play with toys and let my imagination RUN AWAY. maybe keep a baby monitor in there so you can at least tell if something is wrong. everyone needs a break for a bit sometimes. you dont take him with you when you go to the bathroom do you? if he can be alone long enough to go to the bathroom, a mini break is just the same
2007-03-14 11:28:14 · answer #8 · answered by Tang 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course you can put your child in his room for 10 minutes, anyone who disagrees is way to into their baby books. Maybe instead of you taking mini breaks all day you should fix the problem of his whining. When he starts in with the whining, put him on a chair, tell him he can whine as much as he wants on the chair, but he can only whine on that chair, otherwise tell him to use his words, he is into the age where he need to start sharing his feelings, verbalizing how he is feeling will help both of you, especially since he is into the biting stage. If you are consistent with it, you can get the whining to minimize.
2007-03-13 17:19:17 · answer #9 · answered by Silly Billy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're not a bad mom for wanting a little break. Whining is really hard to take, especially when it's been going on for a while.
You didn't ask for advice about the whining but when my kids would whine, I would put a very confused look on my face and say "I'm sorry, I don't understand what you're trying to say when you whine". I kept repeating it until they could say what they needed to say without whining. Good luck and I think 10 minutes of peace isn't too much to ask for.
2007-03-13 14:20:53 · answer #10 · answered by katydid 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If his room is baby proof and there is nothing for him to choke on, then by all means take a break. Make sure that you can hear him, and get him interested in something before you sneek into the other room.
2007-03-13 14:20:41 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋