After someone betrayed you, were you able to trust again in a new relationship?

Answer 1

It does make it difficult, but I believe that as long as you are aware that this could be a issue then you can remind yourself not to compare the two people. We all seem to take old baggage into new relationships, the trick is to recognize it and not make the new person pay for what the other person did. That seems to be really hard, I think it is easier if you can work on letting the past go and forgiving the person from the past.

Answer 2

My belief that people will be as I expected them to be got reduced every time my expectations were disappointed. Of course. What also happened was that I got better at reading people and noticing the signs that could signal disloyalty. Life gives out hard lessons and trusting someone 100% is one of the casualties of living. The good news is that once we’ve had to make some compromises and we’ve learned that there’s life after disappointment, it’s easier to continue on in a world where there are few 100% guarantees.

So the answer is “no” I wouldn’t trust anyone 100% again, but eventually that becomes okay because one realizes that “100%” was a fairy-tale anyway. Life can be good when you have someone you trust 98%. No matter how much it hurts to live with your eyes open, it ends up being less painful than it would be to live in denial with your fingers crossed. Trusting 100% really is living in denial of the fact that there’s always risk when dealing with people.

Trust in yourself, stay aware, listen to your gut instincts, know that life goes on after betrayal - it even gets good. You’ll get to the point where the betrayer doesn’t even matter and then you’ll get to the point where you’re actually glad for the experience because you learned from it and it helped you to grow. I know that’s hard to imagine when you’re hurting, but it happens. I’m sorry if you’re stinging from a betrayal but please know you’re not alone and life can get good again. You can reduce your risk of getting stung by reducing your need to reveal things. It’s easier said than done, but the better you get at not handing over too much trust the less you will get burned and the more you will build trust in yourself to handle life regardless of what other’s do.

Answer 3

A new relationship definitely. But if you remain with the one who did you wrong, it may always be embedded in your mind, haunting you. It's hard 2 let go of that. Next time i get in a relationship, i want to take more time to know the person and vice versa. I want to see if we're genuine friends, not just chemistry. And trust your gut and watch for red flags...i failed to see the warning signs and now i'm paying 4 it!!!

Answer 4

Yes. It took some time of course but, eventually I opened up and found my absolute best male friend I'll have forever. We were romantically involved for almost 2 years and he wasn't sure about things being more than what it was at the time. I broke things off but we have been the best of friends from day one. I can call him anytime day or night and talk about anything.

Don't punish an innocent person for something someone else did to you. Give each person their own chance.

Answer 5

You can't hold it against someone else that someone hurt you. It does take time to heal so I would just make sure that I am not taking in trash into the new relationship. There is no faster way to lose someone then to blame things on them that they did not do.
I am a second wife for my husband and I had to deal with a lot of s*** because of what she did. Not me. Not fair. So be careful

Answer 6

It was hard At First but what one person does Should only apply to that person . Not everyone is the same ! I'm not saying it won't happen again, But I belive that you should give trust tell your given a reason not to trust

Answer 7

IN A NEW RELATIONSHIP WITH A NEW PARTNER, YES. BUT IT TOOK A WHILE. BUT WHAT YOU HAVE TO REMEMBER IS THAT THE PERSON YOU ARE TRYING TO BE WITH NOW IS NOT THE PERSON THAT BETRAYED YOU THEN.

I THINK THAT EVERYONE DESERVES TO BE TRUSTED....TO AN EXTENT. I DON'T TRUST ANYBODY 100%. I'M NOT AN IDIOT. BUT I WILL TRUST SOMEONE UNTIL THEY PROVE TO BE UN-TRUSTWORTHY. WOULDN'T YOU EXPECT THE SAME COURTESY?

Answer 8

Yes but you must accept what has happened to you and be ready to move on. If you don't face what happened and find peace with it you will punish everyone you start a relationship with for the sins of another. Good Luck.

Answer 9

Yep. I've been betrayed a lot...and I definatly learned how to trust again. It took me a while, but I learned that not all guys out there are a.ssholes.

Answer 10

No....not even after 3 marriages and 13 years with the current person...it is always in the back of my mind...my wife thinks i need to seek help...and it can get annoying always questioning her...but i am lucky i have someone who understands that betrayal is scaring.