Same question, different female. In fact, I'm not sure if I have a question at all...I just didn't get to respond to "atablackbelt" and I feel like I needed to...because I'm in the sorta the same situation. I think men in general have a fear of commitment, being the creatures who don't have the tools to adequately express themselves. I've been seeing a guy exclusively for 10 months and he's expressed an interest in having a future with me...yet I haven't met his daughter! At first, it was all..because of the mother...then I find out it's because he's really unsure about me (secondary to some arguments fueled by me not knowing where i really "fit in")...so we go on a break and then break up...then, he decides he really does need me...and wants to be back together...Is he calling all the shots or what? I really care about him and want the relationship to work...and I'm sure he feels the same...What to do now that I've been crushed emotionally several times and unsure if he will change?
2007-03-13 07:08:17 · 6 answers · asked by jennhair 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
will he change for you....no
it's mean i know, your going to have to have a real heart to heart before he changes
i had one with my boyfriend because i was tired of doing things and he wasn't paying for much he changed and even cried over it, have a sit down and tell him he can't say anything until your done
2007-03-13 07:11:57 · answer #1 · answered by Juleette 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
On the one hand, the guy is trying to protect his daughter from becoming emotionally attached to someone who may leave. Kudos to him for that. On the other hand, it doesn't seem fair to keep on the peripheral forever. Perhaps you can sit down and have a rational (remain calm and keep level-headed and even-tempered) about what you both want out of your relationship. After those issues are decided, set a time-table for when you should meet the daughter. I wouldn't expect a meeting right away, given the recent upsets in your relationship, but set a reasonable time-frame for this. The father should begin mentioning his new friend to is daughter if he hasn't done so already to begin to prepare her for the meeting. The daughter may have issues which you are unaware of (abandonment from mom, jealous of dad's time) which need to be smoothed over.
If after all this is done (or not done) and things are still wishy-washy, I would move on. All guys are not the same.
2007-03-13 14:19:14 · answer #2 · answered by I See You 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some guys are as unsecure as women. In terms of relationships, many men have been betrayed and trampled. Perhaps he's afraid that a committment will put him in the same place it did last time. Or may be he knew a situation that had a poor outcome. What ever the case may be, I suggest you talk to him. Express how you feel and see what he has to say about it.
2007-03-13 14:13:04 · answer #3 · answered by Rewind 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get off of this Roller Coaster!
People that care for you NEVER hurt you!
If he wanted you, he would NEVER, for one moment leave you!
Close the door on this dead portion of your life and get on with living the rest!
Nature does not stop, and you get no second chances at being young and beautiful!
There over 5 billion males on this earth, 4 and a half billion of them are trying to get to know YOU!
Join the Air-Force and see the world!
2007-03-13 14:20:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get really clear with him about where you are and find out where he is. If you aren't right to meet his child, then you aren't right for this man. Find someone else who believes in you and loves you enough to share his whole life with you.
2007-03-13 14:13:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
after 10 months i think its time for a heart to heart talk..if he still stalls on certain things or questions it mite be time to move on..gl
2007-03-13 14:16:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋