Staying on his mind when out of sight...?

Question

I would like some suggestions on how to combat this situation. There's a guy I really fancied big time at my previous workplace. I haven't worked there for 2 months now, but have been in touch off and on with this guy over the phone about how I am doing etc. but have not seen him for 2 months. What could I do to ensure that I stay in his thoughts while he does not see me everyday? I want to ask him out for a coffee or lunch. What do you think? (PS: This guy has a huge ego, likes to get attention, is very good-looking and although I know for a fact that he fancies me, I also know that he is known to never make the first move and let women go to him instead.) How can I make sure he doesn't forget me? While we were colleagues we could not of course have sex because either of us would have got fired (very strict corporate environment), but now....

Answer 1

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Don;t stay out of sight, let he see you, just be busy doing other things with other people and fail to notice him.

Let him see your stunning self, but he had a shot and was too stressed,
Time you had some fun.
You can not run your life reacting to him.

At least that is the attitude you should portray. Whether it is true or not.

He either wants you or not. "you know he does ".
It is just in the timing, he has to clear up some old relationship first.

Love is a decision you make , you decide to love someone, if it is not returned, you can love someone else.
Even if yiou do not want to,, at least pretend you are looking.
Date a few people, don't get involved right away.

This guy is occupied with something else, probablty a someone else,
Give him time to work his way out of it, at least a week or two.

Jealousy is not losing someone . It is losing someone to somebody else, If he figures he can have you whenever he wishes, maybe you can show him, that it may not be there when he gets around to it.
I know it is hard, but just be happy and a bit aloof, and be seen with other men,

Give him the cold shoulder for a while.
Not mean , just moving in another direction, until he is ready to chase you.

You may be expecting him to drop his present girlfriend, which is not easy for some people, it is like they have to come up with a good excuse.
So the other person has to screw up..

Why else would he not want to hook up with you except he is involved.

I have met girls I wanted to be with but one or both of us was involved, Burt sure as
@#$%
Whatever , They end up coming around sooner or later
I remember one beautiful girl , I asked her out to an expensive dinner , at at famous reseraunt , She said No she could not go .
Well Ok when I saw her I was friendly, but did not chase her any further .
Evebntually she dumped her boyfriend , lost some weight and 4 months later she came looking for me . She is wanted me to take her out to that special dinner, When 4 months before when I offered , she said NO.

I told her "aw- gee what a shame ,, I just gave away your dinner last weekend , and it was to a real ugly girl, too."
Which was the truth

She was not going to take "No ", for an answer, after planning to hook up with me for four months.

So maybe that will help you feel a little stronger,, knowing that the day will , almost certainly , come when the time is right, and you two will be together, it has happened over and over .
It always makes you feel like ther must be magiic at work, maybe it is , typically it is just getting the right time,, clearing out the old bagage, getting closure on some things first.

Time to occupy your mind in other ways, while time paasses and the situation comes full circle back to you.

What is that saying , if you love some thing let it go , if it comes back it is yours, if it does not come back , hunt it down and kill it.

Hee Hee just teasin'


You made it known that you were ready,
He is not stupid

now it is his turn, to say "Ohhhhhh Yeeaaahhhhhhh"
don't beg, or press it , it will happen, ===============================

Answer 2

Well, it sounds as if his sensitive ego has prevented him from contacting you. He may not know to what extent you really like him, as I have found a lot of people with big (actually sensitive) egos are not as good at reading other people as the average person is, perhaps just a personality trait or due to being wrapped up in their own percepetion of themselves as failures in attracting other people even if not actual failures per se (personal experience LOL).

You might try a little role reversal - send him a nice greeting card, perhaps with some generic potted flowers - no red roses or gushy cards! (LOL) - to let him know that you are thinking of him. Because if you do it that way, he will have more incentive to think about YOU. Keep the communicating going, but do not hound him - three calls a day is too much!

Continue to ring him up, massage his ego (not too much!) and stimulate his desire to see you again by reminiscing about how you really liked working with him and that you miss him more than the work itself. But you must also take the next step and ask him out soon, not to coffee first as you already know each other, but to lunch or even dinner (come on! you can take a risk). You must take a first put-off date in stride, as he may just need to get his nerve up a bit. Be persistent.

Hope this works out for you. Ain't love grand?

Answer 3

This guy sounds as if silly women chased him to no end and so he feels no need to make the first move. This in it self shows he has learned to disrespect women. The only way to stay on his mind is to do the opposite. Do not call him, show him attention, flirt with him, or accept a date with him. But you won't take my advice because you like him for all the wrong reasons just like many other girls do.
This guy needs to get over himself. He sounds very shallow to me. Stop being just one of the many flowers that throw themselves at him. To stand out you must have the respect and integrity in yourself that all the other girls obviously do not have.

Answer 4

You like the guy and you want to have sex with him? Call him and tell him how you feel about him.

This is only if you have lost your self respect ok. Keep on playing the waiting and bluffing game with him while keeping other more serious relationship.

Answer 5

Same happened to me!! See him at lunch time with some food, write a love note etc. on his car window, but NOT with lipstick! Bad news. I can go on and on.. Good luck!

Answer 6

so he is known to be good looking, stuck up and full of himself, and he is also known to let the girls 'come to him', and here you are planning on throwing yourself at him. Looks like he has a system he could mareket there, sounds like you are doing exactly what he wants, I wouldn't even bother.

Answer 7

What are you trying to do to yourself with this guy? Are you that desperate? I am wondering how many other girls think like this. Is this why you all label guys dogs when they take advantage of girls who allow guys to treat them any kind of way? This really troubles me that girls and women don't think more of themselves and will do anything to please some guy they know is a player and a jerk. What's up with that?

Answer 8

why would you want someone with a "huge ego"?

Answer 9

send him a kinky photo of yourself!

Answer 10

Go for it!!!!!