My girlfriend finished with me 2 weeks ago. Then yesterday, she sent me a message to ask if I'd like to go for a drink with her, only as friends,where we could just chat etc. I after thinking long and hard agreed. The problem was that the drink was terrible, she just started having a go at me,basically saying why she finished with me, and that she's seeing a new guy now, who's much 'better'...i just got quite upset...and i admitted rather stupidly that i had strong feeling for her, and that i loved her....she replied...that i didn't mean it...and then i just walked out...about 2 hours after, i got a message saying that she was sorry for all the hurtful stuff she said. i didn't reply. then today, i get another message saying that she wanted to be friends with me, if i wanted to, and she says she thinks it can work.....i haven't replied yet...what should i do...feel like not replying! we dated for 18 months & were good friends before!
2007-03-13 07:06:31 · 7 answers · asked by Rejhaven 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I wouldn't reply back if I were you. She seems really confused about what she wants. Maybe give it a couple weeks before you decide to stay friends so all those feelings will settle.
2007-03-13 07:10:43 · answer #1 · answered by Wendy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This girl so obviously has feelings for you. For her to call you out of the blue and invite you for a drink only to turn around and wave how well she is doing without you in your face, she still must be struggling over your split. You told her you still loved her and that scared her. Her reaction shows that she believes you may not really love her. If you still love this girl, I think you should take her up on her offer and become friends again. That way you guys can still be close and you can make her believe that you love her. The problem is that you're going to have be patient with her. You have to decide if getting back together is going to be worth the effort. Do you want her back? If you do, I say go for it.
2007-03-13 07:20:12 · answer #2 · answered by Just♥Brie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-02 01:34:22 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes! staying friends is worth it as long as it not a game to feed their ego. i have stayed friends with many of my ex's and I'm very happy that I did. They have turned out to be some of my truest friends and people that i can really count on. But don't let her beat you up emotionally. You need to set some guidelines at first and it will get easier as time goes by.
2007-03-13 07:13:33 · answer #4 · answered by chica11 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds a little psycho! I've learned that, sometimes, silents can be the best response! Plus, your feelings haven't gone away yet. You need to give yourself time to let your feelings come down to being just friends. If you don't give yourself time, the B.S will never end.
2007-03-13 07:17:53 · answer #5 · answered by the anomaly23 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being friends just brings up old wounds, you guys need time apart to be able to move on from why you guys broke up. Maybe you can be friends in about a years time, when all the tension has died down...
2007-03-13 07:21:57 · answer #6 · answered by Jasmina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
only if you were good friends before. thats why i become firends with people before i date them, so that way if we break up, we can still be friends like before. but, i understand what you, mean....hanging wth ex's CAN be pretty weird.
2007-03-13 07:11:57 · answer #7 · answered by Kelsey K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋