Hi my names Anna, I am 18 years old. I started dating this kid Vito when i was 16, we had our ups and downs, but no relationship is perfect. We broke up for awhile, and my parents started being nosy, and they think he is a complete scum bag, and will not let me see him or talk to him again. And i think it is completely unfair. They dont know how much I love him, and i feel i am old enough to know whats right, they wont even give a chance or anything. When i try and talk to them about him they blow me off. Recently we saw eachother and we were so happy, It was like a notebook moment. He said he still loves me and apologized for being a dick. He said he really wants to be with me...But i dont want to sneak around my parents. My prom is comming up and i refuse to go unless hes my date. Its not like i havrnt tried dating other guys, I did its just not the same! We love each other so much. its such a Romeo and Juliet situation.
2007-03-13 07:06:05 · 3 answers · asked by Anna 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It is not a matter of "being old enough" to know what's right. It is a matter of being more experienced in Life and how unstable are the relationships of teenagers. The other question is who knows more about human behavior, you or your parents.
Your "ups and downs" are probably serious enough to warrant Vito being labeled as a "complete scum bag" by your parents.
Of course you love him to death, and it is not that Love is Blind, but that Love Blinds...meaning you wear blinders like a horse would wear and rose colored glasses to boot. Love tends to distract you away from the real nature of your partner.
If I had a dollar for how many people said to me, "But I never thought that he (or she) could do that to me?" I'd be rich. Whatever it is about Vito that doesn't get a stamp of approval from your folks is something you need to consider seriously.
Love is not enough to make a relationship last. Never could. Never did. It takes a whole lot more to make them work, but when you're in love, nothing else seems to matter.
What your parents see that you don't is how you are being set up for a fall. They don't see your relationship lasting and they are only trying to protect you from being hurt.
But, unfortunately, parents cannot experience relationships, both the good and the bad, for their kids. The kids have to learn it on their own, but hopefully with some good guidance, too.
You have to brfing Vito home to let your parents talk to him.
2007-03-13 10:51:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope. Not the prom. That's one of the things you two lost by giving in to some variant of the normal immaturities of your young years.
Don't try starting over again until you're both high school graduates.
And at THAT point, if your parents still object, tell them to get over themselves.
Or maybe longer, depending on just how bad the problems were. E.g., if he threatened you with violence, you haven't waited NEARLY long enough yet.
2007-03-13 10:30:32 · answer #2 · answered by Curt Monash 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he really loves you then tell him to sit down with your parents and both of you talk to them together about your relationship be open minded and try not to get pissed in the proses. I had to do the same thing with my girlfriends parents and now we get along great it will just take awhile. Remember your parents just want the best for you.
2007-03-13 10:29:53 · answer #3 · answered by Digger 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋