This is kinda long story..
last 2 years ago,i broke up with my bf and met somebody else who is older than me and i find him nice ,he's got a job and you can actually tell that he is already stable in life (i suppose).we hang out always ....till it came to a point that we are falling for each other ...and at that time as well my ex-bf wanted to patch things up,so i agreed but i left the person hanging.but then i went on seeing the other guy even if i have a bf already.until it came to a point that i have to choose my bf, i dont know why i choose him,maybe i'm just feeling sorry that i lied to him that's why i stayed.
now that we have a baby but not yet married with my bf..i still think of that person,and sometimes when i say to myself that i have to move on & let go of the feeling for the guy .
but just recently we xchanged txt messages and i was told that he is getting married nx year,i freaked out (i even cried) i'm not sure what i'm feeling ryt now...help me... =(
2007-03-13 06:55:32 · 9 answers · asked by yen 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
What you are feeling is normal, especially if things with your boyfriend are rocky sometimes (it's the old "what if I were with ?" and daydreaming that things would be different if you were with him etc. But you have made your choice and you need to give up your fantasies of the other man and concentrate on your relationship now and the baby and growing stronger in this relationship. Try to schedule couple time (a date night where you hire a babysitter and you and your fiance go to dinner or the movies or just a walk) and do stuff together as a family (a walk in the park, a visit to a museum). You have to keep your mind occupied so that it doesn't wander off to your old beau. Leave little notes to your fiance in his jacket pocket or lunch box (just "I'm thinking of you" kind of stuff) or a heart. Give him a massage with hot oil when he's had a hard day (warm up some baby oil on the stove or in the microwave). Massage his feet when he's tired. You will reap great benefits from putting your energy into this relationship and not wasting it on fantasies or daydreams of the other. Good luck and God Bless.
2007-03-13 07:06:35 · answer #1 · answered by tersey562 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow! sounds like some extreme unresolved issues. you need to take a breather and consider what it is that you want for you! Doesn't sound to me that you are happy with your current boyfriend, and the memory of this guy is all you have to associate with your last true happiness. Maybe it isn't the guy who you are upset over, but the feeling of being stuck with someone that you don't really love while the rest of the world moves on around you and finds happiness. I'm sorry, girl. I know how that feels. now, my advice is for you to step back and look at your life, your feelings, and decide what you need to do to make YOU happy. for yourself and your child. then have the courage to do it.
2007-03-13 07:04:45 · answer #2 · answered by randella_24 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds to me like u may be wondering if u have missed out on something special with ur ex bf
or u may just be having second thoughts
ask urself a question are u really happy or are u just there 4 the sake of the baby
i know plenty of couples who are now beter parents since they split up
look at what u want in life
2007-03-13 07:09:51 · answer #3 · answered by trigga01001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think of human beings could be chuffed to have the opinion that they choose. they must be waiting to specific there opinion, and people who pay attention (which ought to be a lot of human beings) ought to have an open techniques, and perchance replace there opinion. some comments will possibly no longer develop into something, whether it doesnt recommend there valueless. whether no person treasures your opinion, you need to. Its what makes you who you're.
2016-09-30 21:05:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i don't know what to say. You have to options you can either move on and forget about the other guy or you can tell the guy how you feel about him
Wish u the best of luck
2007-03-13 07:03:48 · answer #5 · answered by Angel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im sorry to say this but this isnt about you any more forget this other guy and work on making your baby happy. U DIDNT HAVE TO DO ANYTHING YOU CHOSE YOUR PATH THAT YOU ARE ON GET OVER IT AND BE THE BEST YOU CAN FOR YOUR CHILD
2007-03-13 09:32:40 · answer #6 · answered by loubylou 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well u just kind of got close to da other guy u probably gonna get over him wen u relize dat u got a great baby and a boyfriend !
2007-03-13 07:00:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm in exactly the same position now!.....gone back with ex partner, but things are still the same, only slight improvements.....i have a great male friend, he's perfect......and i don't know what to do!!!........(my partner knows about my new friend)
2007-03-13 13:34:56 · answer #8 · answered by Just passing the time! 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
stick with whatever you got, don't be too greedy. no shame or sth? are you want someone's stable money or sb's love. you are so ...........................
2007-03-13 07:03:59 · answer #9 · answered by yiufdbgkhfjj 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋