Has losing a loved one ever made you question God?

Question

I recently lost my mother.. the string thing is she past away in her sleep. This happened in May of 06. Every since this incident I have almost given up on God and everything he is about. I know that I am supposed to remain faithful in his word and such, but my mother's passing has made me see God in a negative way. If this has happened to you, what did you do to increase your faith again? I feel as if I did right now, I am probably going to end up in hell for my thoughts and actions. Another thing that I have noticed is that sometimes I just want to die. I have never contemplated suicide, but I just get tired of living, but then that feelings goes away and I think that I am crazy for even considering this though. What would you do? Do you think I could be bipolar.

First of all..I am going to say this.. If you are an atheist I respect your decision to choose that. I am not a bible thumping person who push religion out on you.. With that being said, if you are an atheist and you answer this rudely.., I am reporting you.

Answer 1

I am sorry for your loss. I lost my father, but even a loss that devastating only strengthened my faith, rather than eroding it. I didn't have to do anything to increase my faith again, because it never left me. However, I understand that you're in a painful position right now. Perhaps it would be wise to seek a therapeutic approach, if you haven't already done so. As for whether or not you're bipolar, only a licensed medical professional would be able to make that call.

Answer 2

I had a similar experience that may or may not have any meaning for you. My brother died while I was in high school and the only thing I could think was "God hates me." That was pretty much the only thought in my head for 6 mos. The thing was, I didn't believe in God. I just thought I was supposed to, and this was the only way I could rationalize God into the situation. Finally, I let go of the God concept and realized that was okay. I guess the way you can apply this to your situation is that you can let go of holding God responsible. Let go of God in this situation. Stop trying to work him into it. Even if there were a God, death is just a part of life. EVERYONE DIES. We are never ready for it, and sometimes we think it is too soon, but you have to understand that every moment of life is a gift. We often cry for not having more, but really we should rejoice for having any at all.

So I say, if you believe in God, thank him for letting you experience such an incredible person for as long as you got to and for being able to have that in your life.

Then stop taking life so seriously and enjoy it. You now know first hand how little of it you get. So you better enjoy it while you can. You hear people say "live in the moment", but if you truly think about this, it is a liberating idea. It doesn't mean to forget the past or ignore the future, but don't forget about right now. It could be the last moment you ever get. So appreciate that and live.

As for your mother, celebrate her life. Wherever she is, she would never cry thinking about her life with you. You shouldn't either. You should smile, and enjoy the rest of your gift before you meet again.

Answer 3

I know exactly how you feel. I lost the most important person in my life, and it felt like the whole world crumbled down on me. My uncle was like a dad to me, and a best friend. But to be honest with you, it made me trust God even more after his death. It was hard at first, but things happened after the death that only God could have done. He died in a car accident, and I was so angry at God for taking him away from me. But after he died, I started finding things out about my family that I never knew. Things that weren't good either. Things that consisted of cheating, lying, stealing and even things that happened to me when I was younger. Things that people would never even believe. I moved out, and have been putting my faith completely in God since then. And when I look at it, if it weren't for my uncles death, I would still be living at home and be dealing with a bunch of evil people. Sometimes, I do miss him, and still wonder why God took him. But I know that he is in a way better place than he was before. I know that with your mom's passing, you can't see any good that could come out of it. But trust me, God had a purpose for this. Keep going before Him, and ask why it happened. What was the purpose for it. Ask for strength to help you through it.. You're not bipolar, you just have an overwhelming amount of mixed emotions. Just trust God, and He'll get you through. And you know that, it's just hard to think of it right now. You'll be in my prayers.

Answer 4

Dear friend, know that God loves you and cares for you. Also that the Lord was kind in taking your mother in her sleep. Take comfort in the fact that your mother no longer suffers the trials and difficulties of the world. Where she is now with the Lord there is no sadness nor death. Joy fill his kingdom and justice reigns over all.
You have suffered a loss and that is understandable. I have lost aunts, uncles, a great grandmother and a grand father. This is the fact of life and the earthly form we take up here and now shall one day pass away. It is the eternal life which continues and goes up to the Father in heaven.
I shall pray for you so that the Lord may bring you comfort and give you strength to live on. You should live your life in honor of God. Your life is precious and you are a treasure to the Lord and those around you. God bless you and grant you peace.

Answer 5

No i do not think you are bi-polar. When I lost my Grand Mother on my dad's side it was very hard for me. I blamed God because she had diabetes and was an emotional wreck since loosing her husband a little over a year before that. Unfortunatley, after this I took a downward spilar into smoking 1.5 packs of cigarettes a day, drinking heavily, and living a wild life style. I was running from God. It was only though the prayers of my Mother and Father and faithful friends that pulled me back from the dark side. I was really close to her. I know now that she is is heaven with God and is a lot better off. I only hope to immulate her here on earth in order to see her again. She was a God fearing prayer warrior. Hold fast, God is with you.

Lord,

I just lift up 'Destiny' to you right now. I know she is going through a lot right now. Please show her you are still near and that you love her. In your word it says you will never leave us nor forsake us. I pray you will just surround her with your presence, love, glory, and favor. Please bring people into her life that know where she is coming from. Bring people into her life that can comfort her and lift her spirits. In Jesus name, Amen

Answer 6

I lost my mom a while ago, and it never caused me to question god. I was an atheist then and I still am. I realize(d) that death is the natural end to life and it is how much you put into life that matters, not any hypothetical afterlife.

You should go talk to a counselor about your feelings. You're depressed, and rightfully so. Grief is a long process, and it never fully ends, it just lessens as time goes by. You have a right to be off your game for a while.

If you would like someone to talk to, I am available. Just email me.

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Answer 7

I would be sad if you left. I know this doesn't sound like much, but there was this one guy I used to talk to in a chat room, and he was always talking this nonsense about this cult leader, and everyone kept telling him that he was false and bad news, and then one day people said that the kid committed suicide. I didn't really know him or anything, but I still feel kind of guilty just because I said things that might have been mean to him, even though I did it to really save him from the cult guy's beliefs. But anyways, that shows me that we effect people in strange ways, and as strange, scary, or confusing as it can be, I think death really makes us appreciate what we have and how significant our lives are. So although I don't know you at all really, I am almost positive that I would be sad if you were to leave.

Love and blessings.

Answer 8

Yes, but remember...
God lost His only Son for us.
Job lost his children, health, money, etc...during his test.
Paul was shipwrecked and imprisoned then beheaded.
Most of the disciples were murdered -- John, who wrote Revelation -- was apparently boiled in oil - yet survived - and was imprisoned on Patmos.
The list goes on and on....
The point is that bad things happen to the faithful as well as the unfaithful. How we handle it makes ALL the difference. Faith in Christ as our Lord and Saviour is the key. He will get us through ANYTHING...even death! There is a peace that passes understanding, i.e. a peace that does not depend upon your circumstances, that comes from Jesus when you place your faith in Him. God's ways are higher than ours, and we should not expect to understand them all. We are called to love God with all our heart and soul -- like Abraham who was willing to unconditionally obey God and sacrifice His own son. When we can have faith like that, Jesus provides peace for us...not necessarily a removal of your circumstances...but eternal life and peace which is worth far more than any - ANY - loss we could ever experience.

Answer 9

I am sorry for the loss of your mother,The first thing is we are all sinners born to die ,you can't blame God for her passing. Have you ever thanked God for having a mother , and the time you had with her ? Have you became a born again christian ? If not I would suggest going to a bible believing church and hopefully you will know the mercy of God and how life is so precious and our time on earth is just a vapor ,and we should spread his word on the offer of eternal life with him.

Answer 10

First, let me say I'm very very sorry about your mom. I know how difficult it is to lose a parent.

My belief in God actually helped me through my own mother's death from cancer. I know that she went back to God and is now in a better place. God didn't single out my mother for suffering and illness. We all go through these things, and our loved ones will go through them when it's our time. Death is part of life. We're never really ready for it, but it is inevitable.

You are not going to go to hell for questioning anything. Questioning is OK! It's natural and normal. I understand, too, what you say about getting tired of living. Give yourself time, though, and it can and will get better. You might consider getting some counseling for this, and to help you deal with your mother's death.