Like the person was the best person you could have ever been with (boyfriend/girlfriend) but you just didn't feel that lasting connection? What did you do? Break up? Or give it more time?
2007-03-13 06:49:17 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's also known as lack of chemistry or spark...and (for me at least) it rarely develops even if given time...it's either there or it's not...so I'd apologetically bow out...that other person deserves to be with someone who's head-over-heels crazy about them, and you should be with someone you dig above all others...anything less, is settling.
2007-03-13 06:53:01 · answer #1 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I had a similar problem. I dated my best friend off & on for three years and I truly loved him. He was "perfect" for me I thought. We had the same values, similar upbringing, and our families both seemed to hope we would end up married. However, it just didn't feel right. The "spark" or chemistry just wasn't there and I finally just had to end it. When I broke it off, I really wanted to stay friends but he was unwilling to continue a relationship as "just friends" and I never saw or spoke to him again. That was 15 years ago. I recently decided to do an internet search just to see what I could find out about him. I discovered that he still lives in the same small town and I was kind of relieved because my life took a completely different path. I moved to the city and launched a successful career. This would not have been possible if I had married him. I think I would have ended up resenting not being able to follow my ambitions and also not ever feeling the "chemistry" that unfortunately seems to be necessary to make a relationship work. I think there just has to be a happy balance between the two. Chemistry gets you nowhere long term if you have nothing in common, but without it, your relationship will also probably be difficult. In summary, I guess my answer is follow your heart.....if you do not feel a lasting connection, it may be time to end it. However, don't count on staying friends. If you can't bear to be without this person, then maybe you should give it more time just to be sure. Also, if you believe in prayer, the best advice I can give is "pray about it". Good luck to you.
2007-03-13 07:31:33 · answer #2 · answered by Amy27 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've done both. Broke up, which taught me next time to give it more time. After all, it doesn't sound like your very miserable. So enjoy the time together and see where it may lead.
Good luck
2007-03-13 06:53:08 · answer #3 · answered by cocacolachickee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
love builds up but even in the most steamy hot sexy, something out a movie, type of relationship, the romantic stage it just that a stage. its not necessarily a bad thing, you just get to know each other better, become more comfortable and such. things do change.
2007-03-13 06:54:15 · answer #4 · answered by corEy marsh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I gave it time but was tempted to break up. I'm glad I waited b/c things have gotten a lot better.
2007-03-13 06:58:00 · answer #5 · answered by eternity 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
break up i mean things dont always go ur way and stuff but u have to make the best of them
2007-03-13 06:53:29 · answer #6 · answered by Adrienne W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
break up...if it's not there, it's not there.....unless the person has the possibility of changing
2007-03-13 06:52:03 · answer #7 · answered by tryin2help 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes being good friends is more rewarding.
2007-03-13 06:53:53 · answer #8 · answered by Ray2play 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep, I'm there now. I love him but there's no "feelings".
2007-03-13 06:52:45 · answer #9 · answered by Jewel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's me ALWAYS. i'm just not "romantic". i'm kinda like avril lavigne, i'm rough, but I find time to consider romance.
2007-03-13 06:53:16 · answer #10 · answered by hello there 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋