hey I'm 17 finishing high school shes the same age but different schools the thing is were very close friends were very comfortable with each other and the thing is I tested for like 9 months and I know its not a quick crush Ive known her for now 2 years and love is not a word I can use cuz thats what our friendship is considering were close like that but I dunno how to tell her I like her I need help on how to tell her some one help I'm planning on telling her i like her when she comes back but I really dint know how to approach this help thank in advance our when we talk and end a convo it always end with I luv U so cant tell
2007-03-13 06:45:31 · 10 answers · asked by franky 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Something just like this happened to me. It happened last year in my first year at college. I had a friend that i met through a friend. She at that time has a boyfriend and the main thing we talked about was how horrible her boyfriend was for her but she would not leave him. In terms of testing the relationship between the two of us, for the first month or so there was nothing but friendly contact. After about two months she started saying "I heart you" which i just like you could not decide if it was an act of friendship or of love. As time went on, although she had a boyfriend at the time whom was psychotic to say the least she began to do un friend like things, such as putting her arm around me and resting her head on my shoulder. Much like you are describing we hung out allot and it just never seemed to get to the next level by itself. Believe it or not what i found was a really good way to get the message across of telling someone you like them is INVADING PERSONAL SPACE. What i am talking about is moving into her comfort zone and seeing if she repels away if she has no problem with you going into her space first put your hand on her thigh "not too close to you know where" and then start innocently fumbling with her hand. My best advice to you is not to wait but to take immediate action to try to invade her personal space. After i invaded the girls personal space we became much closer and she eventually broke up with her psychotic boyfriend and began becoming more "touchy feeley" with me. We then wound up as a couple without even professing our love to each other aloud. So my best word of advice to you is just to invade the personal space and you will not have to say a word because if there is chemistry and it is meant to be it will happen anyway.
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2007-03-13 07:10:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let's talk a bit about ATTRACTION. Attraction is a bizarre process. It happens for reasons that are difficult to explain to a person who has a "bad model" of how it works. But let's just say that if it DOES happen, you want to AMPLIFY it. You don't want to WEAKEN it.
One of the problems with "telling her how you feel" is that it instantly changes the dynamics of the situation.
When you say "I like you", in her head the woman hears:
"He is admitting to me that he likes me, which gives me all the power, which, for some strange reason, makes me not like him as much anymore."
I realize that this sounds crazy, and doesn't make a whole lot of "logical sense", but it's what usually happens.
If you want to "tell" a woman that you "like her", the best way to do it is to ADVANCE PHYSICALLY. In other words, TAKE THINGS TO THE NEXT LEVEL. DO something, don't SAY something. Words are to be used when ACTIONS don't work better. And this isn't one of those cases.
But DO NOT "tell her how you feel".
Remember: Do it with your ACTION, not with your WORDS.
2007-03-13 07:47:19 · answer #2 · answered by Halle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is she dating anyone? If not, go for it! I would take her out to somewhere that she just absolutely loves to go....dinner, moives, dancing....whatever..... I would just come out and tell her. Like, say we have been friends for a long time and I have grown to care alot about you, more then a friendship. I would like to go out on a date with you. And see what she says. She can say yeah or nah. Just make sure that if she says Nah, that you are able to continue the friendship.....Good Luck!
2007-03-13 06:52:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send a huge bouquet to her house and include a message: 'I miss you so much when you are away. I like you more than you can know. Affectionately, ------(your name).' See what she says. I know she will think about it.
2007-03-21 03:44:35 · answer #4 · answered by kathyw 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like a damn near perfect relationship. you should just come out and say it but make shure you do it live and in person none of this phone crap.
2007-03-13 06:51:05 · answer #5 · answered by squibbodoodle i fuck your poodle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her about ur feelings for her
2007-03-20 08:36:52 · answer #6 · answered by Lilac 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you open your mouth you say i really love you how do you feel about me is it mutual if not forget it and move on,,,, best wishes
2007-03-21 04:15:12 · answer #7 · answered by beth b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try lots of casual body contact...
Touch her a lot...
Holding eye contact...
Try holding her hand...
2007-03-13 06:50:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i read the first bold
NEVER RUIN A CLOSE FRIENDSHIP BY SKING UM OUT.
2007-03-20 17:00:49 · answer #9 · answered by MACMAN9494 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell her you like her,maybe she feel this way too
2007-03-21 02:06:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋