To me, sex isn't all that great even if I'm in love with the guy. Sex just isn't a big deal to me. When I was in love, I would have sex to please my man, and because he seemed to enjoy it so much. But I could personally go years without having sex. I think the thrill for women having sex is when they really care for and love the guy.
2007-03-13 06:40:54 · 13 answers · asked by Yvette S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I see where you're coming from, but honestly, I could not go years, let alone months without having sex. It does feel better whenever I'm in love with the guy, but it also feels good when I'm with the right guy that knows what the hell he's doing.
2007-03-13 06:44:53 · answer #1 · answered by Wendy 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I feel yah on that. I am the same way. Sex is not a big deal in a relationship, but it has to at least be good.....lol. Seriously, I love sex and GREAT sex, but its ok if I dont get it all the time, but it is not ok if when I get it.....ITS GARBAGE...na'mean? I know a few people that sex for them in a relationship is a deal breaker if its not good...they will leave that person. Seems a little shallow, huh? Sad, but so true. Have you thought about getting intot he other "sexual" acts? You dont have to always have penetration vaginally. Add toys to the mix!!! Good Luck!!
2007-03-13 06:48:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its a circle actually - to have great sex you need to love the guy, and I believe we fall in love with the guy with whom we have the best sex; so, the gist is that good sex is with someone you are mentally and thus sexually compatible with.
But, honestly to me it seems like you need to work on sex with yourself for a while - find out what turns you on, what kind of sex you would like and you will fall in love and have the best sex ever :)
2007-03-13 07:27:10 · answer #3 · answered by LucyintheSkywithDiamonds 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well for me I have to be in love with the guy. I'm still a virgin but even kissing has to be with someone I'm in love with. So I'm assuming sex will be the same way!
2007-03-13 06:48:19 · answer #4 · answered by The girl next door 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No its when you have someone that knows what they are doing. I was with a man for 8 yrs married 4 of them and 1 baby. I didnt even know what sex wasuntil i got with the man im woith now. I never wanted it before and didnt do it. now i do it all the time.
2007-03-13 06:46:04 · answer #5 · answered by brndbradsh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a guy and to be honest I think you couls enjoy the experience much more then you do. I wonder if you were ever big on pleasuring yourself? I wonder if the men you had in your life were basically "takers" rather then "givers". I think you havent been with the right guy yet.
2007-03-13 06:45:29 · answer #6 · answered by Devdude 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I disagree, but its a very personal thing! Every woman is different and its not easy to learn to ask for what you want ... try it though, tell him what you want! Maybe you need a man who will focus on YOU, making you happy and making you feel special, it can be very great even with a stranger, if he is giving and not only concerned with himself ... Oh and ALWAYS use protection!
2007-03-13 06:47:05 · answer #7 · answered by GypsyGirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not necessarily you can have great sex with someone you dont like it all depends how sexual a woman you are.
2007-03-13 06:47:52 · answer #8 · answered by memyslf&I 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
But if you don't get involved, then I might as well have sex with a bagel.
Your participation and interest is key.
2007-03-13 06:44:53 · answer #9 · answered by Experto Credo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is like that for some women.
But, maybe...just maybe you haven't had the just the right man to......
I think you alright though.
2007-03-13 06:46:07 · answer #10 · answered by Ms Brown Eyez 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋