ok, heres the deal, i have a bit of a situation on my hands and i need some parents to help me out on this one. Im really interested in this guy and he is really REALLY interested in me. He has asked me if i want to become "official" with him and i dont know what to say. i really do like him a lot, hes everything ive ever hoped for, but theres kind of a problem. He is not only twenty eight (im eighteen) but we meet over the internet by accident, (neither of us were looking for anything online lol). i really want to have a serious relationship but im embarresed to introduce him to friends and family because of what they might think/say of our ages or how we met. im also really worried about my parents, theyre super conservative and im not sure what theyll do. Help me out. what do you think i should do? and how do you think my parents would take it?
2007-03-13 06:36:09 · 17 answers · asked by Lizzy S 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I believe I answered this for you before, last night I think, I still stand by my answer. Its your life, do what you want. Good Luck
2007-03-13 06:40:25 · answer #1 · answered by Kevin J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a foolish girl. You think that a 28 year old man is the man for you. Look around every man is interested in you. You pose less a threat of Sexually transmitted disease. You are much easier to fool than the 28 year old female counter parts.
OOh! a old man wants to have sex with me.
Has he given you a diamond ring and a wedding date.
How are his ex-wives doing anyway. .
Why did they part.
Is he taking responsiblity for the children he's fathered already
Do you picture self at home in 9 months you do have a home caring for you new born. I hope you have a good job to support yourself and child. Maybe once your parents get past the fact that you knew they would not approve they will let you stay with them. Then again they may be afraid you have AIDS or other STD and not want to use the same taoilet as you.
Now picture your self making the most of your opportunities at school. Meet a young man that is also making the most of the opportunites school affords you. You go on to college get a good job. Get engaged and then have children.
I have a 19 year old son looking for a single girl. Maybe you could explore this thing called life and love together.
One last thing as an employee for the Department of Corrections the most handsom smooth talking man on probation was the sex offender. He could charm the panties right off you. BEWARE
2007-03-13 13:55:04 · answer #2 · answered by granny_sp 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is a big age difference. You should be cautious and alllow your friends and family to advise you. Be honest with them, so you can get the best possible guidance. Let them address their concerns, and listen without becoming defensive.
If he is serious he will be willing to meet your parents and let the relationship develop at the proper pace. If he does not recognize that an 18 year old cannot make this decision without support from those who love her; then he needs to be let go.
2007-03-13 13:45:16 · answer #3 · answered by limendoz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen child, you are still technically one! You cant really know a person over the internet, you can say anything you want the other person to believe you. If you want to be an adult on this then meet this guy in a very public place and talk to him if you still have feelings talk to your parents and yes they will say he is TOO OLD for you. But you want to go out on a date with him and get to know him in person.
2007-03-13 13:51:28 · answer #4 · answered by glazer_098 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
speaking as an adult, and someone who has had relationship experiences, you reallyl won't know if you want a "serious" relationship with this person, until you get to know them in person for a while...
please, DO look at the man before you get into a committed relationship -- EVERY man... you need to be treated with respect and dignity.... you really have to decide this sometime after you meet.
meanwhile, if you both have a lot in common, your age difference shouldn't be an issue...unless he's totally immature or something?
YOU have to decide what is best for you....
enjoy
2007-03-13 13:46:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's way too old!
Think of it this way. Why would a guy that age be interested in an 18 year old? Why can't he find someone closer to his own age? What would you have in common with a 28 yr. old? C'mon girl!
Focus mostly on the 2nd & 3rd question!
2007-03-13 13:40:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you actually met him in person?
If a 28-year-old guy has anything in common, or to even talk about, with an 18-year-old girl, he must be a social retard. Or a perv.
Run away from him..quickly.
There's gotta be some reason you don't want the people close to you to meet him, some negative vibe. Rely on that.
Run away.
2007-03-13 13:41:28 · answer #7 · answered by tmlamora1 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't take it very well but that's me. The age difference is the problem, not the way you met. If you are embarassed now, wait until he's in his 40's and has nothing left in common with you. You are setting yourself up for some serious drama. Good luck with that!
2007-03-13 13:40:52 · answer #8 · answered by . 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lizzy,
At 18 you need to date your own age; 28 is beyond the comport range as you probably need more time to do "your thing"; school, date others, work; being involved with someone that age is pushing it.
Be wise about this and be mature; at 28 one must ask why is he not dating woman more Mature?
2007-03-13 14:02:26 · answer #9 · answered by Adonai 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whoaaaaa. 28 years old. He's a pervert. And a loser.
Hell, your 18!! Find somebody your own age. I'd say 22 or 23 would be reasonable if your attracted to older guys.
2007-03-13 13:47:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before you make it offical, get to know him better not the internet. Remember you are both adults age should not matter. If for instance you begin to really fall in love with this guy you will not care if your friends-family like him or not its what you think. You are not ready to introduce him to know one, get to know him yourself first! GoodLuke!
2007-03-13 13:57:14 · answer #11 · answered by curious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋