My 18 month old gets into everything!! He knows what i mean when i say no, but he wants to do it anyway!! Any suggestions? He does not understand timeouts!!
2007-03-13 06:31:38 · 10 answers · asked by housewives5 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Also what about the whining to get what he wants!! It is driving me crazy!! I have a 6 year old and he never really did any of this!! This is new gorund for me!! I guess what they say is true about having opposite children!!!
2007-03-13 07:17:29 · update #1
He actually does understand no, but is not able to do it. He is at that age where kids are just learning self-control. His brain had the thought, and his body was already moving before he ould get to the no. The consequences need to make sense, he will not understand a beating or time out. My son who is almost two can and will get into everything. If you say no, he will run faster towards it. We have put everything with the potential for harm under lock and key (I'm not kidding) the other thing that he isn't supposed to play with (like the computer) we just watch him and go running. When he gets up into the desk chair, we say no firmly and then (since he doesn't stop except to look at us like he's daring us to catch him) we grab him off the chair and while telling him no firmly, move him to somewhere where he can be. In addition, we put a slideshow of the kids baby pictures on as our screensaver. We also turned on the password when it goes off of the screensaver. If he touches the computer, the pictures go away and won't come back unless he leaves it alone and sits back. (This makes a natural consequence if he touches it, something he doesn't like happens). The screensaver has worked better than anything. The same goes with anything, if it sucks, he won't do it again. If its just you hurting him or being mean, it will be you he doesn't like, not the naughty behavior. Help him learn to stop himself by telling him what to do instead (no don't touch that...then what? If you say, Jim, play with this instead. Then he knows what to do and his brain thinks of the toy instead of the item he isn't supposed to touch.) Good luck, this too shall pass.
2007-03-13 08:26:01 · answer #1 · answered by Huggles-the-wise 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hold on. This is only a phase. He will grow out of it, I promise. I have a 2 year old doing the same thing. But my 4 and 5 year olds came through it fine.
Just apply firm, loving, CONSISTANT discipline. (he who does not understand timeouts, understands a swat on the bottom) OOOh...not that!!! Praise him liberally when he is obedient, too. Positive reinforcement is very helpful.
Another thing that will help your sanity, make part of your house completely baby safe (we have the family room, the front hall and the kids' bedrooms gated off for them, so they can't reach the kitchen, master bdrm, or the nursery).
I have 4 children aged 5 and under, and everyone that watches them comments on how well behaved they are. Just be consistant.
Hope this helps.
2007-03-13 13:47:16 · answer #2 · answered by Daddy of 5 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes he does understand when you say no. When he does something and you tell him no and he continues, gently pick him up and set him in a chair or on the sofa and tell him you told him he couldnt do such and such and keep him there for 1 min. He is old enough to learn consequence for his actions. it will take him a while to know you mean for him to stay there but just continue to tell him he must stay there and if he doesnt want to he must stop when you tell him no.
I worked at a childcare facility as a director for 4 years, by this age they know time out.
hope this helps.
2007-03-13 13:40:58 · answer #3 · answered by okie_goddezz 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
RE-direct him. Tell him 'no, that is not for babies.' and then take him over to his toys and try to get him interested in something there. Keep on him....keep on him.....keep on him. It's so much better having a kid you can take places who will actually listen to you than completely ignore you. You might have to slap his hand if he goes back a second or third time....even at this age, they test their boundaries. I never boarded up my kitchen cabinets, my kids KNEW which ones they could open, and it might help to have a basket of toys easily available. That way at least he has a choice....
2007-03-13 14:19:06 · answer #4 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would recommend putting things up on higher selves, locking things up and stuff like that, its normal for toddlers to want to explore. However if he is doing this purposely to make you angry or if he knows he isn't suppose, I would give him other things to do, give him some pots and pans to play with, let him finger paint, if its a nice day then go to the part or outside and play out there. Give him other things to do and other things to play with. I make sure he knows not to do that and why he shouldn't be into that stuff. Hope I helped
2007-03-13 13:42:47 · answer #5 · answered by Laura 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try putting him in a safe place like a play pen or distract him with something else
he's kind of young for a time out chair and not really able to understand consequences of his actions yet
try a firm no and remove him from the situation and put the object that he wants away
2007-03-13 13:36:45 · answer #6 · answered by Greeneyed 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Spat his hands and tell him no no I have an 18 month old who is always into to everything......and that seems to work for her or put him into a chair and keep putting him back and he will eventually get the point
2007-03-13 14:18:18 · answer #7 · answered by Candice S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say no and then if he continues to do what he is doing, move him away from the area, or take him in a different room.
He will learn that if he doesnt stop himself, you are willing to stop him by moving him away from whatever the situation is.
2007-03-13 13:36:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is just curious, I think you should redirect his attention to something else. He's too young to be punished.
2007-03-13 14:23:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep dangerous items away from his level. (duh, i am so sure u knew that)
stop saying no, and just redirect him.
2007-03-13 13:37:00 · answer #10 · answered by Miki 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋