Im 16wks preggers and my family hates my bf and there big catholic goers so ofcourse its a sin to live with someone ur not married to (i oviously have diff views)
Do i move out (i rent from my parents) its a great condo nice great comunity great school system and low rent *they are cutting me a big break* but the catch is - my bf cant move in....
or do i ..
Move out with my bf into a way less nice place so we can be together. and all finaciall ties between my parents and i will be cut off. they wont even help me move...
advice????
2007-03-13 06:31:27 · 4 answers · asked by Janers 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Only you can make that decision.
I'm sorry you're in this situation. Being young, unmarried and pregnant from a guy that's probably not your best match and certainly not you're parents idea of a suitable husband for you and father for their grandchild is very, very difficult.
OK...here's what I think: You need as much help as you can get. Your parents are offering you help. You move in with the BF and you get zilch and that is probably what he'll endup giving you too.
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Here's your reality check, sister. You're young and unmarried and pregnant by a guy that doesn't sound like he's going to provide for you. You're in a very sad situation and life is going to be tough for you. Tough, but not impossible. But you've bitten off more than you can chew as a young unwed mother.
You're going to have to make the most of this situation...let your parents help..stay where you are and seriously, Hon... if I were you, I rethink the boyfriend.
I don't get the best feeling about him and if you're asking this question anonymously on Yahoo Answers, you must have a few doubts yourself.
2007-03-13 06:42:53 · answer #1 · answered by I am Laurie 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should give this a great deal of thought.
I am Catholic also but I would not base my decision on that .
How does you boyfriend treat you and what does he feel about you being pregnant? Does he treat you with respect and is he happy about having a child.
Is he responsible enough to take care of you and a new baby?Does he have a dependable job and is he reliable?
A great condo and low rent are wonderful but not the key to happiness.As for your bf not moving in with them you have to respect your parents wishes and feelings.
Would you be happy and secure living in a "less nice place" or do you have doubts about that? Do you love each other?
There are many things you have to take into consideration because now you have the welfare of your unborn child to consider first and foremost. That is the most important thing right now.
Don't rush your decision.Take your time and ask God for his help in making the right choices.I wish you the best.
2007-03-13 08:15:00 · answer #2 · answered by sonnyboy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry you're having such a strained time with your family!
16 weeks in, they may still be dealing with the disappointment of your not living by the religious views they hold, and worried about your future and the baby's. People who are stressed often don't behave the way they would like to.
That said -- is your bf ready to support you and his child? If he is, then it's time to talk marriage - for legal reasons. Marriage means that should anything happen to you (for example, if you were ill), he would automatically be the baby's guardian and would care for it. If you're ready to marry, then yeah, it's time to move in together.
If he's not ready to marry you, then you both need to see a lawyer and make provisions for the baby (his child support agreement, custody, etc.).
If he's not ready to do any of that, then he's not ready to be a father, and you'd best stay where you are and make plans for caring for yourself and your baby (prenatal doctor appointments, who will watch the baby after birth if you're at work, in school, at an appointment).
Here's the thing - now, your life is all about the baby. All your decisions should go through that filter -- "what's best for the baby?" Welcome to motherhood...
2007-03-13 07:01:34 · answer #3 · answered by peculiarpup 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You no longer can think of your own desires. You have the best interest of the unborn child to consider and your future. If the young man steps up gets and keeps a job over the next 5 months then provides you with a marrage certificate then he has committed his life to caring for you and you child. You will love your child more than the yourng man. You will be a GOD to a newborn. Help him to be the man/father he wants and should be. Otherwise stay home with parents that already have proven there love.
2007-03-13 07:02:18 · answer #4 · answered by granny_sp 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋