is this a date.. or just two friends hanging out?

Question

I am going out with a guy tonight, he said i could pick where we go... We have known each other through friends for a while.. but never really talked.. last weekend we were drunk at a party and made out, and since then we have talked every day.. is this a date.. or just two friends hanging out? And what should i pick to do.. i just need help.. im really shy and if he does like me i dont want to mess this up because he is a really great guy!!

Answer 1

This is definately what I call a "marker date". A marker date is when two people happen to hook up amongst a crazy party setting, and instead of it being a usual drunken make-out, both of you must have felt something for it to make it past the alchohol. So now you have been talking, and your going out on a date to see how you guys would be sober and chit-chatting. My suggestion for what to do- especially if you have a lot to talk about, is to go to a restaurant/bar and have a drink or two (try not to get bombed!) talk, and keep the conversation light so you can get to know one another. If your looking for a more active approach, try mini-golf or bowling! good luck

Answer 2

I'm guessing it's more of a date. If you don't have the guts to ask him then, I suggest if you're itnerested in him, pick a spot where you can get some privacy but don't make it too private incase one of the two changes their minds. Don't make it too public so you dont get shy.

e.g. Restaurant, fine you can talk no one is disturbing you then walk after... or movie, more privacy yet not too private since there are people around. Beach at night is too private if he is not interested he might feel weird or if he tries something you are not too comfortable with then you are too alone so it can get awkward. Amusement park, concert are too crowded and maybe he prefers privacy and also he might be uncomfortable with public places.
Pick something you know you you will both enjoy and that way you are sure to have fun. How about a sport like paintball? you can both have fun and also do something active, after that you can go for a quiet dinner to 'relax' and then tell him you have a surprise at home and get some cake or take him to a place with a nice view or something...

Did you ever consider the option that he might think you're together? You know, you hooked up and after you talked and this is like the official first date, that just sprang my mind incase he thought that way, cos if he didnt want you he would have said sorry for being this way, I dont want you...

Well I have no idea if that helps but it's just the way I would be if I were in that situation, but I doubt I'd kiss a girl before asking her out unless I was really crazy for her or that drunk and maybe (another thing that sprang to mind) is that I just wanted to not feel like an *** for just making out with her so I'm still talking to her so she wont think i'm one... if you get my point... I felt bad for doing what I did.... Well good luck with it my best shot is he likes you and WANTS to turn it into a date if you let him!

Answer 3

i think of it fairly is a date. only for the reason which you 2 are not going out formally does no longer recommend it can not be a date. In a feeling you have been 2 friends putting out, however the way she grow to be flirting with you and how long y'all spent time technically makes it a date. the subsequent step is to call/textual content her back asserting how plenty relaxing you had final nighttime and hoping you will have it back. only save on attending to comprehend her much extra appropriate. i'm fairly effective she's into you. i wish to pay attention that y'all are boyfriend and lady pal quickly. stable luck(:

Answer 4

I think it's a date. I would suggest going to a movie first and then to dinner. That way, you automatically have a topic of conversation for dinner and if there are any awkward silences, you can discuss the movie. I would keep things low key, dress somewhat casual, watch a comedy or some movie that is not too intense and suggest a restaurant which is moderately priced and order stuff that is not messy to eat, like spaghetti is. Order Parmesan chicken instead, y'know. I hope it goes well for you!

Answer 5

If this is the first official "date," but you're nervous, pick someplace familiar.

Honestly, the best way to get to know someone is over a pizza. Do you have a favorite sit-down pizza joint? It'll be a great way to hang out and have a good time.

And, for what it's worth, my wife is my best friend. So, if it's two friends just hangin' out, that's a good thing!

Answer 6

Sounds like a date to me (because you made out before). You don't do that with friends.

If you're friends now, and he's a great guy, just come out and ask him when you're together tonight. "Is this a date or what?"

Answer 7

i would consider this a date, even tho you were both drunk when you made out, you have continued to talk when you were not drunk, and he wasnt drunk when he asked you out. i would try to pick something that you both enjoy or are interested in so both of you will enjoy it. or pick a restaurant you both like, this will allow you to talk more. good luck :)

Answer 8

Sounds like a date. Pick a great Japanese rest. so the chef will keep you talking so there will be no ackward silence. Good luck!

Answer 9

Looks like a date to me!

Oh, and in regards to what should you pick to do, just pick a fun place to get food and then go from there.

Just be yourself.

Answer 10

You have something going. I would just slowly introduce compliments to him.