Why do siblings born to the same parents fight among themselves?

Answer 1

For the same reasons any two people fight (we tend to forget that siblings are still individual people with their own temperaments, likes and dislikes) PLUS... some competitiveness is usual between siblings. Someone always feels the other sibling got more of something good (attention, presents, etc.) and/or less of something bad (criticism, for example). Jealousy crops up.

Sometimes, it's true. Parents are human, too. They often feel they have to give more attention to the child who seems to need them most, for example, which is human (and so is the resentment the other sibling feels). It doesn't mean they don't love both children, but they feel one can "do better on his (or her) own" while the other needs more supervision, help, etc.

Still, it can create difficulty between the siblings, who have to forge a relationship together independent of their relationships with their parents, which can take time. Plus, sometimes sibs just fight because that sibling is the one person it's safe to fight with who won't leave and reject you.

It'd be nice if family members really did give each other their best and treat each other better than anyone else, but in reality, too often family members treat each other worse than anyone else, using the family as a safe place to let out negative emotions. It takes a family aware of what they're doing, with everyone (or almost everyone) wanting very much to change things, to make it better.

Answer 2

Sibling rivalry is a type of competition or animosity among brothers and sisters, blood-related or not.

80% of people in Western countries have at least one sibling, and siblings generally spend more time together during childhood than they do with parents. The sibling bond is often complicated and is influenced by factors such as parental treatment, birth order, personality, and people and experiences outside the family. Studies have found that of sister/sister pairs are the closest and brother/brother pairs are the most rivalrous, with identical male twins the most competitive of all. Parental and societal expectations of males may lead to more competitiveness and a greater degree of comparison between brothers, as opposed to between sisters or opposite-sex siblings.

Sibling rivalry is not unique to Western culture. For example, there is an Arabic saying: "I against my brother; my brother and I against my cousin; I, my brother, and my cousin against the stranger".

Sibling rivalry can involve aggression; however, it is not the same as sibling abuse where one child victimizes another.

Answer 3

It's just sibling rivalry. They're trying to get more attention from their parents from the other siblings. Sometimes, they will even ask their parents "Who do you love more?" Competition is something that people seem to thrive on, especially with siblings! But also, they have to live with their siblings, and sometimes they will do things that get on their nerves. This can result in arguments and fights.

Answer 4

Beacuse they are not treated equally by parents and they have different individualities. It's the same with the world. God doesn't treat us equally and gave us free will so that we can define our individuality. Just as siblings fighting disturbs the harmony of the family, human beings fighting disturbs the harmony of the globe. These siblings don't understand that although they are being treated differently, they are being looked upon with equal love by their parents, just like God looks upon us.

Nice question though.

All the best...

:-)

Answer 5

Certain amount of bickering among siblings is normal.

Family tensions or just hormonal?

Besides ignoring their immaturity parents fight back to discipline.

Answer 6

It's natural jealousy. Every kid wants to be special in the eyes of his/her parents. When there are more than one, each wants to get attention and love from the parents. Siblings fear that the other one is a rival and will win everything what it should get from the parents.

Answer 7

In any organisation (including a family) there is always jossling for position. Everyone wants their share of the credit for what goes on and the self esteem this brings. It's human nature. The fact that people are related just makes the competition for respect more emotionally charged.

Answer 8

Christians and human beings combat between themselves because of the fact they are human beings. merely the place did you get the thought all and sundry Christians agree on each thing? i'm a member of the Richard Dawkins dialogue board, and from what i've got viewed, many atheists handle one yet another with extreme rudeness, disrespect, etc. that's different from Christians have a monopoly on battling with one yet another. Have a effective day!

Answer 9

I think secretly it because they are trying to compete...even if they themselves don't know it! because the parents say they love all their kids the same, but the kids know that that can't be possible and they are just saying that and each one is competing for the most love. my sisters were constantly fighting while we we growing up. I personally didn't fight with them that often....but then again, I always knew I was the favorite...lol

Answer 10

It's all part of the animal kingdom...Family members play and "train" for fights and protection for later in life. The fights don't only build physical aggresion, it also builds the confidence for confronting that job interview or high stakes sales pitch to a large number of people.