i can think of a million reason y i shouldn be with her but i can only think of one why i should be with her- i'm inlove with her. is this enough reason? i'm inlove with her, and for who she is but she has certain habits that i cant handle
2007-03-13 06:25:57 · 20 answers · asked by Elroy J 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Being in love is not sufficient.
For a good successful relationship, your heart and mind must be at rest together.
2007-03-13 06:30:10 · answer #1 · answered by Brenmore 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say that's the biggest reason in the world to to be with someone. All the other reasons wouldn't be worth anything if you didn't love her.
The habits? We all have habits and you can't expect her to change everything for you. Love should be uncondtional, whether she bites her nails, or sucks her teeth, or steals the covers. I'm sure you have some habits that she hates too. If you love her and you said that you love her for WHO SHE IS, then that means accepting those habits and loving her anyway...
Now, if we are talking realy BAD habits, like co-dependency or drug addiction, I'd say that's a double-edged sword. That's something only you can decide. If that is the case, you need to decide what's best for YOU if she's not willing to take steps to get help. Sometimes, like the girl above said, love isn't enough...
2007-03-13 13:47:36 · answer #2 · answered by ♥♥Mrs SSG B♥♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That all depends on what the habits are. If the habits are going to affect the relationship, such as drug addiction, or cheating--then it doesn't matter how much you love her--it will takes it's toll on the relationship. If it is something else, something that you can work on together, then you need to make the effort at trying to salvage the relationship. The great thing about true love is that if you are TRULY in love,then her "habits" and "flaws" won't make enough of a difference for you to seperate.
2007-03-13 13:31:43 · answer #3 · answered by Austins Mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I call this the "chemical attraction" and it's a BAD thing! Love, like money, is a contributing factor to happiness, but love does not GUARANTEE happiness. You can be with some one you love and still be utterly miserable. I only know from experience (I'm not a doctor) so I can't describe why we can love some one irrationally. I often jest it's because we knew each other in a prior life.
Anyway, this kind of attraction is dangerous because it makes you irrational. You can lose your money, your friends and your self-identity because of it. I know it's hard to resist, and like a drug, experiment with it if you want. But, be very careful and don't let it control you. Once you break off and are away from each other, find a rebound relationship. NEVER go back to it. Good luck!
2007-03-13 13:30:58 · answer #4 · answered by wizbangs 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have no problem boy! You want someone to tell you what to do. You already know the answer. You will have to take her "as is" or not at all. That is life in it's cruest way. If she doesn't love you, then back off. Open your eye's. smell the rose's. Follow what you know to be true. You know! Good Luck, hope it turns out the way you want it too.
2007-03-13 13:34:22 · answer #5 · answered by cprucka 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you love her, you should think of a reason why you do love her and want to be with her? if its lust and it's a long term thing you're going for, then it's probably not the person you want to be with, every person you're going to be with is going to have alot of habits that you hate, but it's just part of a relationship
2007-03-13 13:29:37 · answer #6 · answered by www.japanvideogames.com 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO! Not good enough. Too many people are even killed because they won't leave someone because they "love them". Go now. I don't even want to know how you excues the habits.
2007-03-13 13:29:38 · answer #7 · answered by nevyn55025 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I give you one question to ask yourself: If you would be with her, would you try and change her habits you can't handle? If so, you shouldn't even try going out with her. You shouldn't try to change someone's habits for your sake. (you are suppose to love her for who she already is and not what you want her to be. If you don't want her to change for you, go for it, you will eventually learn to live with her habits.
2007-03-13 13:32:20 · answer #8 · answered by youppi82 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes love is not enough.if her habits damage u as a person then u have to walk out. if she doesn't respect that,then u have to respect yrself.hope u move on as gentler and easier as possible.
2007-03-13 13:30:29 · answer #9 · answered by disco ball 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first, does she feel the same way about you?? if she does i guess its ok to be in love with each other. but if you love her that much you could help her break the habits.
2007-03-13 13:29:34 · answer #10 · answered by Catherine 14 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋