my boyfriend is twenty yrs old and im seventeen is tha okay?

Question

i meet my boyfriend when i was sixteen but lately his been going to school so he never has time for me but i see him on a regular basis we really love each other and care about each other but sometimes i feel like i have to compare myself to everything in his life it gets really hard at times and he doesn't call me like he should i get worry at times thinking about the worst. What should i do?

Answer 1

ya as usually a girl is small in marriage

Answer 2

While three years might not be that big a difference in age, the difference between a high schooler and a college kid is pretty big in terms of maturity, life experience as well as what they want out of life. He's probably doing a lot of growing as a person, which means he might start to get distant from you. I'm not saying that it won't work, but you guys have to both be committed to making it work. College is a busy time for anyone, but he really should be making and effort to call you. You need to sit him down and talk to him about these things that are bothering you. Hopefully after that, you'll both be on the same page.

Good luck!

Answer 3

I think you guys can work, age is only a number, at the end of the day aslong as you both are happy thats all that counts eh?

As for getting worried about him not calling you, try to relax a little hun and take everyday as it comes as if you start getting paranoid and worry over nothing this will cause major problems in your relationship. As you said you both love each other so theres your answer chick, just try and be mature about the relationship as he is slighty older than you and wont want to eel as though you cant deal with a mature relationship, if you start worrying over him not calling you etc just think, hes your boyfriend, he loves you and thats all that matters, if you every just wanna chat im here for you just mail me. Chill out in the mean time and enjoy being with a great guy :) chelle x

Answer 4

i am assuming that he is now in college, and you are in high school. It is ok if: 1) you are of legal age of consent in your state (if not, your 20 year old boyfriend could be in some serious trouble with the law); 2) if your parents do not object to you dating someone 3 years older than you.

these points aside, you need to lower your expectations - if he "doesn't call me like he should?" how should he call you? more often, at appropriate times of the day, where & when you expect it? after all, he, like all of us, is not a mind reader, so he is probably unaware that you have set certain expectations of when/where/how often he should call.

also, both of you are quite young, and soon he will be able to go places that you cannot (like bars where alcohol is served). you should find other things to occupy your time and stop obsessing about his life and activities. certainly don't sit around waiting for his calls...

Answer 5

If your parents did not like him they could interfere with your relationship until you turn 18 because you are a minor. You are really young so if the relationship is not working let it go. You can bounce back fast. You and your boyfriend are at different points in your lives and its hard to relate to each other. If it doesn't work out you are still really young and have plenty of time to date before you get serious.

Answer 6

If you don't trust your boyfriend, you shouldn't be with him. It doesn't matter how old you are, its just that simple. If your gut feeling says you have reason to worry, you're probably right. If you are worrying and there is no logical reason to worry, then you don't totally trust him and that will ruin your relationship.
You shouldn't have to compete for attention. If you really feel that inferior, and if you lack confidence and feel insecure, then you are giving the impression that you don't think you deserve him. And if you believe you aren't good enough, then he's going to start believing it too. You need to talk to your man and get his feelings on this situation.

Answer 7

What's NOT okay is if you two are having sex. Just wait until you're 18.That way it will be legal.

What should you do? Talk to him. TRUST him. You don't have to have him calling or emailing you ever spare minute of every day!

Why do you feel the need to compare yourself to everything in his life? He's in college. You're not. You HAVE to learn to trust him.

Answer 8

Well it seems that you need to have a serious conversation with him. Is always better to be honest with a guy because a guy can not read a girls mind. So i say you should be completly honest with him and tell him how you feel about him not calling you like before.
Good luck!

Answer 9

You should break up with him and find someone closer to your age, while it is only 3 years, the fact that you are a teen and he is an adult makes it a huge difference. You are still in high school and he is in the real world

Answer 10

legally the age is okay since you have reached the age of consent. emotionally i am not sure since i do not know your level of maturity. if you are a mature individual you will know he has a personal life outside of you that you need to respect. dont compare yourself with him since he is a bit older and would have accomplish a bit more than you. what both of you need to do is to be honest to each other and set expectations for the relationship. p.s. please be responsible.

Answer 11

The age isn't the problem, the problem is that he is in college and maybe doesn't want that commitment of a girlfriend. He is trying to distance himself from you, so you move on.