I'm so confused on what to do!?

Question

On the one hand, if I try telling the girl I miss (we haven't talked for ten months and I've just left her alone without trying to get her back because she told me she didn't want to talk to me anymore. I had liked her and she didn't like me back that way) that I just want us to be friends again and how I feel about her, it could scare her off and I'll appear like a stalker or something. On the other hand, if I never try how will I know what could happen and more importantly, how would she know how I feel about her? I just don't want to scare her off, yet I also don't want to never see her again.
This question will help to understand what I'm talking about more-http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=Ain7SLa5_iTC2AezXYdQjw_sy6IX?qid=20070313062116AAEvKJb

(If you read other question) I didn't call her every single day, but just about, and only because at school we could only talk inbetween one class. When it was about two months before we started talking, I started only calling her once a week.

Answer 1

Ok, I read your last question which you posted before this one. In it you said you wanted the truth even if it hurt. She already told you, she felt you were harrassing her and are obsessed with her. Now you write her a letter explaining how you are sorry and just want to be friends. From what your letter and question sound like, there is more than friendship you are seeking from this girl, therefore you did not listen to what she said. She wants you to stop this. I can understand how this hurts you as you really fee you like her. She senses that your request for friendship means more than just that. The only hope you have to ever even be her friend is to move on, let her see you with other friends, other dates. That will be the only thing that might convince her that it is safe to be your friend without you starting up again about your feelings for her. Sometimes in life we just have to accept we cannot always get what we want. Thank God there are other people out there in this great big world to choose from. Best of luck to you!

Answer 2

Baby I am going through the same thing pretty much only I was actualy in a relationship with this female who all the sudden told me that I wasnt good enough for her and that I was disrepectful to her family and was horrified that she even wanted to be with me in the first place, I met her online, And that was a week after I met her face to face. I am in Love with her desperately and I cant get over the fact that she used to love me too, I think that she is my soulmate and I cant let go, I asked people if they thought that I was a stalker and they said yes. As long as she doesnt call the police on u do what u have to do to figure out if it was in fact meant to be that u remain friends with her. And let me know how everything goes. Love A Fellow Stalker email me please @ [e-mail]